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*ETA*Your wife's in no position to not be working.

Anonymous
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Normally I don't care what married couples do.
With that being said, my father and his wife came to me yesterday and asked if they could move in with her Dd for 6-12months rent free.
He lost his job 4 months ago and is having trouble finding employment. His wife is a stay at home mom and does not work.
I just said no.
My father is scheduled for surgery next month and said at the moment he's not in a position to work.
I told him that his wife is in no position to not be working.
And I ended the conversation there.

Eta**
I just wanted to add some background on why I feel the way I do.

If it were a situation where my father's wife was willing to help out and at least get a job, or even take the job her father was offering I'd be fine with helping out.

I'm a single working mom of 3, I don't think it's right to be asked to support 3 more ppl, soon to be 4 as his wife's dd is pregnant.

My father has always been good with money and had enough in savings in case he was ever injured or out of work, enough at least to get by for more than a year.

His wife has blown through his savings.

She had an affair with a married man 19 years ago and her dd is a product of that affair. The father wanted nothing to do with either of them. She got a fairly large amount of child support but sent her dd to live with friends or relatives for most of her life. The support stopped at 18 and that's when she started spending my father's savings.

I have no issues with her dd. She's a nice girl who's made some not so good choices and given the fact that she's been passed around from home to home her whole life I can understand why.

I have offered my father help and told him he is welcome to stay with us, but his wife and her dd will have to figure out things out for themselves.
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 26, 2017 at 8:57 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 26, 2017 at 8:58 AM
Sounds logical she should get a job.
ReedusStalker
by 11-15/3-27 on Jan. 26, 2017 at 8:58 AM
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In this situation, I agree with you. They are in the position where she needs to get a job to help support her family since her husband is unable too
bleumonster
by Emerald Member on Jan. 26, 2017 at 8:59 AM
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I'm confused. Why would they ask you if they can move in with her daughter? Did you mean your daughter?
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jan. 26, 2017 at 9:00 AM
They asked to move in with you?
DensHag
by Ruby Member on Jan. 26, 2017 at 9:00 AM
Yep she needs to go get a job.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 26, 2017 at 9:01 AM
He means him, his wife and her daughter move in with me

Quoting bleumonster: I'm confused. Why would they ask you if they can move in with her daughter? Did you mean your daughter?
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jan. 26, 2017 at 9:01 AM
How old are they? Any children still living with them?
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 26, 2017 at 9:01 AM
Yes, the 3 of them

Quoting Anonymous 3: They asked to move in with you?
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jan. 26, 2017 at 9:02 AM
How old is the daughter?
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 26, 2017 at 9:02 AM
Dad I'd 60, wife is 45, her Dd is 18

Quoting Anonymous 3: How old are they? Any children still living with them?
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