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Family drama.

Anonymous
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A little background. 


My grandparents divorced when I was a Freshman in HS because my grandfather had a girlfriend. It divided the family. Some of my aunts and uncles took grandpa's side. Some took my grandmother's side. Since I was a kid, I stayed out of it. Fast forward to Graduation. I'm the first grandchild to have graduated high school. (Actually the first female in my family too) I set aside 2 tickets for him and his new (by then) wife.(I have never met his wife to this day) He never showed. I then invited him and his wife out to dinner after to celebrate, Just us. He didn't show. 2 weeks later I left for boot camp. When I graduated boot camp, I offered to bring him and his wife down for the ceremonies. He refused. I went to Kuwait (first Gulf War) and he was "too busy" to have dinner with me before I left. I (obviously) made it home, got out of the military and went to college. When I graduated, I again, invited him and his wife to the ceremonies. He refused. At this point, I stopped asking. I moved back to my home state. My husband talked to him a few times while at my uncle's house. He asked about me but never tried to contact me. 


I just found out he passed away. I was planning on going and saying the goodbye he wouldn't allow me to say while he was alive. I was told by an aunt that his wife said if I showed up, she would call the police and have me escorted out. I'm half tempted to show up anyway. I know every single cop in the town so I wouldn't be arrested. Asked to leave yes. Arrested no. 

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 26, 2017 at 4:35 PM
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SAHMJC
by Emerald Member on Jan. 26, 2017 at 4:37 PM
I'm curious did you offer the same invitations to your grandmother? Why were you so hell-bent on seeing your grandfather?
littlesippycup
by Baby T-rex Arms on Jan. 26, 2017 at 4:40 PM

WTH doesn't she want you there? I wouldn't go. Fuck that grown ass man letting old pussy keep him away from family.

mama_danetta
by She's so heavy on Jan. 26, 2017 at 4:40 PM
Is this the whole story?
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 26, 2017 at 4:42 PM

Yes I did. My grandmother and I saw each other regularly. I did know that the 2 of them did not like each other so other than events I had no control over (graduation ceremonies for example) I never invited them both at the same time. I was actually the only grandchild to have kept in touch with her. She passed away 2 years ago and I was the only grandchild to show up at the funeral. 


I eventually did give up. I would just like the chance to say goodbye since I was cut off for some reason and never knew why. 

Quoting SAHMJC: I'm curious did you offer the same invitations to your grandmother? Why were you so hell-bent on seeing your grandfather?


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 26, 2017 at 4:42 PM

As much as I know. 

Quoting mama_danetta: Is this the whole story?


Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 26, 2017 at 4:43 PM
Something is missing from this story.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 26, 2017 at 4:44 PM

You're right. There is. But I don't know what it is. I have no idea why I was shut down. I was never told why. 

Quoting Anonymous 2: Something is missing from this story.


SAHMJC
by Emerald Member on Jan. 26, 2017 at 4:44 PM
My guess is he didn't appreciate the fact that you invited both of them. I just don't understand why you would chase after a man who broke of his family but I guess at least you didn't abandon your grandmother. Is it really worth spending the time money and energy going there when no one wants you there?

Quoting Anonymous 1:

Yes I did. My grandmother and I saw each other regularly. I did know that the 2 of them did not like each other so other than events I had no control over (graduation ceremonies for example) I never invited them both at the same time. I was actually the only grandchild to have kept in touch with her. She passed away 2 years ago and I was the only grandchild to show up at the funeral. 

I eventually did give up. I would just like the chance to say goodbye since I was cut off for some reason and never knew why. 

Quoting SAHMJC: I'm curious did you offer the same invitations to your grandmother? Why were you so hell-bent on seeing your grandfather?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 26, 2017 at 4:45 PM
Maybe it's time you asked.

Quoting Anonymous 1:

You're right. There is. But I don't know what it is. I have no idea why I was shut down. I was never told why. 

Quoting Anonymous 2: Something is missing from this story.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jan. 26, 2017 at 4:46 PM
Did the other grandkids keep in touch with grandpa? Are they being told to stay away?
It sounds like you where being punished for having a relationship with your grandma.

Quoting Anonymous 1:

Yes I did. My grandmother and I saw each other regularly. I did know that the 2 of them did not like each other so other than events I had no control over (graduation ceremonies for example) I never invited them both at the same time. I was actually the only grandchild to have kept in touch with her. She passed away 2 years ago and I was the only grandchild to show up at the funeral. 

I eventually did give up. I would just like the chance to say goodbye since I was cut off for some reason and never knew why. 

Quoting SAHMJC: I'm curious did you offer the same invitations to your grandmother? Why were you so hell-bent on seeing your grandfather?

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