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I can't believe what DD just did

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She has been giving me shit about smoking cigarettes in the house for years now. I finally stopped smoking around the house and now I only do it in the bathroom. Still she finds reason to complain and says she always smells like cigarettes and can't even go near the bathroom. We have a bathroom upstairs she can piss in.

This has been a daily battle with her. I've already compromised but I am not smoking outside, this is my home. So she goes upstairs and comes back down, comes up to me and blows pot smoke in my face and says "how do you like it". Idk what I am going to do with her. I am fuming.
Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 19, 2017 at 5:11 PM
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iwilliams76
by Platinum Member on Mar. 21, 2017 at 2:02 PM

Stop smoking in the house. Gross!

Anonymous
by Anonymous 82 on Mar. 21, 2017 at 2:11 PM
Monkey see Monkey do
Anonymous
by Anonymous 83 on Mar. 22, 2017 at 12:38 AM
This exactly. I remember exactly the kids that came to school smelling like their parents cigarette smoke. I watched how they were treated and always felt so bad.

Do whatever you want, as long as your kids don't have to suffer the consequences.

Quoting gezzca: I lived in a house of smokers I got made fun of everyday because of how I smelled it was the worst thing in my life ... I'm sorry I'm on the 16yr olds side
Anonymous
by Anonymous 84 on Mar. 22, 2017 at 2:34 PM

I'm getting a lung scan in two weeks, possible lung cancer.  I never touched a cigarette (or pot) but was exposed to second hand smoke my entire childhood because both my parents smoked in the house, in the car, at the dinner table...everywhere.

I made a choice at a young age to NEVER smoke because a parent of a new friend that invited me over for the first time asked me, in a 'disgusted way', if I smoked.  (I was in 5th grade)  When I replied no, she asked me, again clearly disgusted, if my parents smoked.  I replied yes and she told me, "Of course, because I can smell it on you." And she walked away.  That was the first time I was aware that I smelled bad.

So, I'm with your daughter.  Go outside to smoke.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 85 on Mar. 22, 2017 at 9:57 PM
Show her some respect and maybe you will get some! Kids learn through watching their parents. You are smoking in the house. Second hand smoke can be deadly. Take your smelly butt outside.
Mireya9
by Silver Member on Mar. 23, 2017 at 6:20 PM
This is what I hate about people who smoke! They think everyone else wants to smell their shit all the time.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 86 on Mar. 30, 2017 at 3:41 AM

She is lucky she is your daughter and not mine.  The first time she blew smoke in my face, I would have slapped her.   I never tolerated disrespect like that.  Not to say my kids didn't get mouthy, but not a one of them would have dreamed of blowing smoke in my face for any reason.  My rule was and is that they can say pretty much anything but it must be said respectfully.  Disrespect and defiance was not tolerated.  Either way, until a law is passed, cigarettes, while not healthy, are legal.  To the best of my knowledge, no where is pot smoking legal for anyone under 18.  Also, it is your house.  Unless she starts paying all of the rent (mortgage) and utilities, she doesn't get a say.  This is a major power play for her that has been going on for years apparently.  She doesn't like you smoking and is trying to force your compliance.  While it might have started off as concern for your health, now is it about who is top dog of the house so to speak.  If it were me, I would start smoking around the house again, and since she has money to be buying pot, she can start helping financially around the house as well as extra chores, which still doesn't give her rights to dictate your behavior.  Any electronics I paid for would be gone as well as the door to her room.  In all reality though, you should try to make an effort to quit (when she stops trying to force you).  Don't do it for her sake, do it for yours. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 87 on Apr. 18, 2017 at 2:00 PM

Sooo... You'd rather have your cigarettes, and have your house and everything in it reek, and jeopardize your daughter's health... all because "it's your house"?

Mother of the year award, folks. <eyeroll>

Anonymous
by Anonymous 88 on Apr. 18, 2017 at 2:01 PM
Lmao I'm laughing. Your kid sounds like something I would do.
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