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We got married to bypass the FROR

Anonymous
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My DH and I have been together for 4 years. We were planning on getting married next summer on our 5th aniversay but it wasnt worth it to wait until then. I moved into his house 2 years ago. Things have been great until BM all of a sudden started having a problem with me. We used to have a good relationship but I clearly said or did something she doesnt like

I have tried talking to her so many times about it but she wont even say a word to me

There is a FROR in the CO. She has never used it before but lately she will come and pick up the kids and take them to her house (45 mins away) just to make things harder. Anything over an hour DH has to ask if she wants the kids or not.

We tried to get the CO changed but the judge wouldnt have it. The only other way to get around it is for us to get married. So that is what we did. Now the FROR does not apply to me (spouses are not  included) and it is only an issue if someone else wants to watch the kids.

BM is not happy about it but we dont care. It was crazy what she was making all of us including the kids do just to "prove a point" 

Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 24, 2017 at 12:41 PM
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JDMlover
by Summer&Lucille on Apr. 24, 2017 at 12:50 PM

Well I hope that wasn't the only reason you guys got married

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Apr. 24, 2017 at 12:50 PM
What is an FROR
lwalker270
by Ruby Member on Apr. 24, 2017 at 12:50 PM

I'm not divorced, so have no clue what a FROF is...

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 24, 2017 at 12:51 PM
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Of course not but it makes more sense than waiting another year to get married and having to deal with this

Quoting JDMlover:

Well I hope that wasn't the only reason you guys got married


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 24, 2017 at 12:52 PM

First right of refusal. Essentially she has the right to refuse anyone besides DH or herself to watch the kids except now that I am a spouse it does not include me. 

Quoting lwalker270:

I'm not divorced, so have no clue what a FROF is...


iwicked
by Sugar Magnolia on Apr. 24, 2017 at 12:52 PM
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My neither

Quoting lwalker270:

I'm not divorced, so have no clue what a FROF is...

CrystalSapphire
by Silver Member on Apr. 24, 2017 at 12:52 PM
Prepare yourself for a war with ex-wife.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 24, 2017 at 12:54 PM

At this point there isnt much she can do. The judge already made it clear that there would be no change in the CO

Quoting CrystalSapphire: Prepare yourself for a war with ex-wife.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 24, 2017 at 12:54 PM
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First right of refusal. Essentially she has the right to refuse anyone besides DH or herself to watch the kids except now that I am a spouse it does not include me. 


Quoting iwicked: My neither
Quoting lwalker270:

I'm not divorced, so have no clue what a FROF is...


krisnkids
by Platinum Member on Apr. 24, 2017 at 12:54 PM

First off, it's ROFR (right of first refusal).

Second off, I would not put it past a judge to smack your dh's hand for this one.

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