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Mom Breaks Down Stigma Around Daughter’s Birthmark With Gorgeous Photos

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http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/mom-breaks-down-stigma-around-daughters-birthmark-with-gorgeous-photos_us_56d5fe16e4b0bf0dab33a95b


Six-month-old Charlie Crenshaw is a vibrant baby girl with a beautiful smile, but people don’t always notice that at first. Instead, they tend to ask, “What’s wrong with her face?”

According to her mom, HuffPost blogger Katie Mullis Crenshaw, Charlie was born with a capillary hemangioma (aka “strawberry mark”) that doctors have deemed cosmetic. Katie told The Huffington Post that her daughter has seen specialists and takes daily medication to ensure it does not grow any larger or obstruct her vision.

With no known cause or prevention options, hemangiomas tend to “involute or disappear eventually,” the mom wrote on her blog, Twelve And Six. She also shared her response to the many strangers, friends and family who are quick to mention Charlie’s hemangioma. 

We don’t need to talk about it every time you look at her. We see past the color of her face. Charlie is Charlie and it’s part of who she is. It doesn’t need to be constantly commented on, critiqued, or questioned. While I don’t mind educating curious minds, I don’t need your opinion on how it its progress [sic] or the affect [sic] it may have on her. It’s a part of her unique beauty. It may never disappear, and guess what? It doesn’t have to. I would much rather chat about her latest milestone achievement, her amazing smile, or how gorgeous her eyes are.

Katie hopes her beautiful Instagram photos of her daughter will change people’s perceptions of Charlie and others who look a little different.

“I would like to normalize ‘differences’ in appearances,” the mom told HuffPost, adding, “People tend to immediately pInstead, Katie hopes people can get to know Charlie for who she really is. 

“Her personality is dynamic,” she said. “Everyone she meets comments on her piercing eyes, or that she seems like an old soul that understands much more than we think. She is extremely motivated and is already crawling and trying to stand.”

After sharing Charlie’s story, Katie said she received some criticism based in misconceptions she’d like to clear up. 

“I don’t feel I am doing her an injustice by not having it cosmetically removed to protect her from bullies,” she explained. “As a child, I was bullied, and I had nothing wrong with me. I think to protect our children from bullies we should instill confidence and values in who they are, the way they were made.”

ity people who look different and I would like to change that conversation.”
Instead, Katie hopes people can get to know Charlie for who she really is. 

“Her personality is dynamic,” she said. “Everyone she meets comments on her piercing eyes, or that she seems like an old soul that understands much more than we think. She is extremely motivated and is already crawling and trying to stand.”

After sharing Charlie’s story, Katie said she received some criticism based in misconceptions she’d like to clear up. 

“I don’t feel I am doing her an injustice by not having it cosmetically removed to protect her from bullies,” she explained. “As a child, I was bullied, and I had nothing wrong with me. I think to protect our children from bullies we should instill confidence and values in who they are, the way they were made.”

“No one wants their child to be picked on, but children can be ruthless,” she continued. “They will pick on kids for their name, their brand of shoes, or the way they talk. It’s just something that may or may not happen.”

Katie also wants others to know her family is open to answering questions about “the birthmark” and do understand their concern and compassion. “We just hope to educate people on our perspective and perhaps challenge them to think about the way they think and the words they say,” she said.

Beyond the negative feedback, however, the mom says she received dozens of inspiring emails from parents of kids with hemangiomas and adults who had them as children. 

As the mom wrote in her blog post, “Hold the pity. She’s a healthy baby girl and we are blessed. Her hemangioma is just as insignificant to who she is as a freckle on her arm. You don’t need to mention it, and you don’t need to wish it away.”




Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 24, 2017 at 6:56 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Apr. 24, 2017 at 6:57 PM
Charlie is a boys name
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Apr. 24, 2017 at 7:00 PM
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I like Charlie better for a girl than a boy

Quoting Anonymous 2: Charlie is a boys name
Mrs.Pedro
by Platinum Member on Apr. 24, 2017 at 7:01 PM
It could be for either. Charles and Charlene/Charlotte could use Charlie as a nickname.

Quoting Anonymous 2: Charlie is a boys name
Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Apr. 24, 2017 at 7:04 PM
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I'm sorry but if she can have it removed then she should. She is going to be made fun of for it her entire life because people are mean. The mom wants to make a point or whatever ok then do it another way. If it was my kid then I would have it fixed if possible which from the way the article reads it can be fixed she is just choosing not to. Poor child is going to always be made fun of. I couldn't live with myself as mother if I chose to not fix something that was going to cause a lot of heartache for my child. 

Lady_Snow
by Silver Member on Apr. 24, 2017 at 7:06 PM
How precious!
Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Apr. 24, 2017 at 7:06 PM
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I don't think the photoshoot is going to break down any stigma associated with a pretty common birthmark. People are still going to ask. People are still going to offer opinions and suggestions. It's human nature. But let's face it. Looks matter. How you present yourself to the world matters. I would 100% do what it took to minimize that birthmark in order to make my child no longer a moving target for opinions and comments. She is doing her child and injustice. But she wants her viral moment to make her seem like a sanctimommy.
MissAndree
by Nosuchthing on Apr. 24, 2017 at 7:06 PM

It can be either. I have a traditionally male name, and it's fine. 

Quoting Anonymous 2: Charlie is a boys name


MissAndree
by Nosuchthing on Apr. 24, 2017 at 7:08 PM

No, it will more than likely go away on it's own. My nephew had one that was gone by his third birthday. It is safer to allow it time to go away on it's own. 

Quoting Anonymous 4:

I'm sorry but if she can have it removed then she should. She is going to be made fun of for it her entire life because people are mean. The mom wants to make a point or whatever ok then do it another way. If it was my kid then I would have it fixed if possible which from the way the article reads it can be fixed she is just choosing not to. Poor child is going to always be made fun of. I couldn't live with myself as mother if I chose to not fix something that was going to cause a lot of heartache for my child. 


cutebaby06
by Ruby Member on Apr. 24, 2017 at 7:09 PM

OMG, seriously? My daughter has one, doesn't bother her at all, she likes it, and no on has ever made fun or her for it.

Quoting Anonymous 4:

I'm sorry but if she can have it removed then she should. She is going to be made fun of for it her entire life because people are mean. The mom wants to make a point or whatever ok then do it another way. If it was my kid then I would have it fixed if possible which from the way the article reads it can be fixed she is just choosing not to. Poor child is going to always be made fun of. I couldn't live with myself as mother if I chose to not fix something that was going to cause a lot of heartache for my child. 


Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Apr. 24, 2017 at 7:10 PM
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I don't understand why she wouldn't have it removed if it can be done. Why would she put that poor child thru something like that just to prove some kind of point? My daughter was born with a cyst on side of her neck that was purely cosmetic as well. It wasn't very big or noticeable. But doctors highly suggested we have it removed as soon as possible, which we did. It did leave a scar behind. Which doctors said it would stretch and get more noticeable as she got older. But they said they could fix that as well when time comes. 

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