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Am I being too protective???

Posted by on May. 26, 2017 at 7:38 PM
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My son is almost 10. We live 3 miles south of town, right on the bike path. The Library is about 5 miles away. The older boys in our neighborhood ride their bikes there. They invited DS today and I said no. The bike path would get him most of the way there but the last mile would be through town, crossing 4 or 5 small streets and Main Street, which is also the highway. Granted, we are a small town of 7000 people but we have many tourists all year and thousands of people are traveling North today to camp for the weekend.

Anyway, DS is pissed at me. He said I treat him like a baby. I drove him up there and picked him up but he is still mad. Am I too protective?
by on May. 26, 2017 at 7:38 PM
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owl0210
by Sapphire Member on May. 26, 2017 at 7:39 PM
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I wouldn't let a 10 yr old cross a highway either.
mcginnisc
by *Claire-Bear* on May. 26, 2017 at 7:41 PM
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I wouldn't allow it either. If you're overpotective, so am I. 

Claire


" I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." Philippians 4:13 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on May. 26, 2017 at 7:41 PM
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Depends on how well I knew the older boys, how much older and if I could trusted them to keep a eye on him or not.

kadcas
by Bronze Member on May. 26, 2017 at 7:41 PM
All depends on how old and responsible the other boys are.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on May. 26, 2017 at 7:43 PM
Why not get on a bike and bike it with him. Win win.
5BHaileyMom
by Platinum Member on May. 26, 2017 at 7:44 PM
My youngest cannot bike that far or I would have.

Quoting Anonymous 2: Why not get on a bike and bike it with him. Win win.
onethentwins
by Ruby Member on May. 26, 2017 at 7:45 PM

I'm going with yes. He was going to be with older boys and you embarrassed him.  I know it's hard to let go, but we must. 

redheadtmk
by Ruby Member on May. 26, 2017 at 7:47 PM

I dont think you are but i do think you should start riding it with him or follow in the car so you can teach/gauge his safety habits.

When I was little we rode across a highway and I almost got hit several times. The problem wasnt that I was careless and didnt pay attention, but that I had zero ability to safely determine how fast they were going for how far away they were. I always stopped and watched for cars and went when I thought it was safe. But the cars went faster than I realized.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on May. 26, 2017 at 7:48 PM
My son turns 9 in september and there's no way he will be doing this in the next 3-5 years.
handy0318
by Ruby Member on May. 26, 2017 at 7:49 PM

This is what I'd do... bike it with him a few times and see how he does. 

It's really important to foster independence. At 10, in a group, on bikes... that sounds like a time and place to allow him to stretch the wings a bit.

Quoting Anonymous 2: Why not get on a bike and bike it with him. Win win.


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