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Drinking teenagers and driving.

Anonymous
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So, a bunch of older teens were drinking at a massive party when the cops were called. I have a friend who's son was there and he said it was pure chaos...people screaming, running, jumping into their cars and hitting other cars to get out and away. One kid was actually killed and run over. The mom has always picked him up, per their agreement but he begged her for 1 more hour and she agreed. : ( 

So, what do you do knowing there is a good chance your kid is gonna party and need a ride? Do you pick them  up, arrange Uber, what is your strategy and are you in a town or city?

Posted by Anonymous on Jun. 4, 2017 at 7:01 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jun. 4, 2017 at 7:04 PM
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I have had 3 teenagers and they all knew to call for a ride, no questions asked and no consequences either. Safety is most important here. I will say though when my middle dd was at a party it had been busted and she got a ride home from the police. The officer said to be proud of her she was the only one not drinking, she was also the only one not running into the woods.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jun. 4, 2017 at 7:06 PM
They don't go. I'm that mom that knows where my kids are at any given moment of the day.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Jun. 4, 2017 at 7:06 PM
He can ring me at 3am if he wants to get a lift home if he needs one. He can get a taxi and wake us up if he doesn't have cash to pay (and if his account was too low) or use my account with a certain taxi company and put it on my DHs account (or get me to phone him one to pick him up on account)

He does not under any circumstances get into a car drunk or with someone who was drunk. When I say he would be killed by me I am not exaggerating.

I was run over b a drink/drug driver in college. I know what those actions can do to a family. It is my hard line, I don't care where he is or what time but drink driving or being connected to it is never okay
Princess_s21
by Sarah on Jun. 4, 2017 at 7:08 PM
Depending on how old the teenager is, I would be dropping her off and picking her up anyway for the most part.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jun. 4, 2017 at 7:08 PM

This is my policy too. Sorry to hear about your experience though...so scary.

Quoting Anonymous 4: He can ring me at 3am if he wants to get a lift home if he needs one. He can get a taxi and wake us up if he doesn't have cash to pay (and if his account was too low) or use my account with a certain taxi company and put it on my DHs account (or get me to phone him one to pick him up on account) He does not under any circumstances get into a car drunk or with someone who was drunk. When I say he would be killed by me I am not exaggerating. I was run over b a drink/drug driver in college. I know what those actions can do to a family. It is my hard line, I don't care where he is or what time but drink driving or being connected to it is never okay


Saphira1207
by Platinum Member on Jun. 4, 2017 at 7:10 PM
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This

:)  minus the police escort.  I haven't had that yet. 

Quoting Anonymous 2:

I have had 3 teenagers and they all knew to call for a ride, no questions asked and no consequences either. Safety is most important here. I will say though when my middle dd was at a party it had been busted and she got a ride home from the police. The officer said to be proud of her she was the only one not drinking, she was also the only one not running into the woods.


Sassy762
by CAFE SASSY HBIC on Jun. 4, 2017 at 7:12 PM

I had an agreement with all of my kids ....IF you do get drunk, call me and I will come and get you. No questions asked/no punishment

BUT IF I find out you were drunk and driving......I would make your life a living hell....

notuseless
by Gold Member on Jun. 4, 2017 at 7:14 PM
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Even if they sneak out and get drunk as long as they call and have me pick them up they will only get in trouble for sneaking out not drinking. If i don't punish for the drinking they will be more likely to call and have me pick them up. If i find out they drove drunk or got in to a car with a person who was drinking then they will be in so much trouble.
ilovemykids323
by Emerald Member on Jun. 4, 2017 at 7:18 PM

eek dunno my kids aren't there yet but they'll know of hte consequences beofre hand and also that i would rather pick them up from a party or someplace no questions ask then have to plan there funeral.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Jun. 4, 2017 at 7:20 PM
My teen will get a teen uber account if available in my area by then. Then I can see who is driving him and where. Way better than driving with other teens at night. Otgerwise we have a local dial-a-ride thats just a couple bucks.
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