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How does she not understand?!?!

Anonymous
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My brother passed away 15 years ago, at the age of 30. He was married, with 4 children, under the age of 7. My sister in law and him had a strong marriage and were deeply in love.

She took his death extremely hard and went to a dark place for a while.

She has been dating/living with a man for 5 years. She complains he hasn't married her yet and she doesn't understand.

Her FB page is filled with my brother's pictures. She talks about him constantly. So do her children. She visits his grave often. She just ordered a new headstone with her name on the other side. How could this man not feel insecure and not worthy?!

Posted by Anonymous on Aug. 4, 2017 at 4:14 PM
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LoveAll3306
by Party Specialist on Aug. 4, 2017 at 4:17 PM
Im so sorry for your loss. It sounds like she still has a lot of healing to do.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Aug. 4, 2017 at 4:18 PM
Very sad situation.
quinnsmom715
by Ruby Member on Aug. 4, 2017 at 4:19 PM

id not deal with that for 5 years..

Brain_fart
by Bronze Member on Aug. 4, 2017 at 4:19 PM
Grief makes people act in strange ways. Has she ever sought grief counseling?
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Aug. 4, 2017 at 4:20 PM
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Thabk you. I wish she woould go to therapy.

Quoting LoveAll3306: Im so sorry for your loss. It sounds like she still has a lot of healing to do.
Mom2theboy1994
by Gold Member on Aug. 4, 2017 at 4:20 PM

I honestly think that's how I'll be if my husband dies before me. I know I'll never remarry. Have you talked to her about how she is making her boyfriend feel? Coming from you, her husband's sister, it may help her realize it's ok to move on from your brother. That finding a new relationship doesn't mean she loved your brother any less? Maybe talking to you will help her?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Aug. 4, 2017 at 4:21 PM
I wouldn't either. My brothers picture are all over the house also.

Quoting quinnsmom715:

id not deal with that for 5 years..

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Aug. 4, 2017 at 4:21 PM
No. She became an alcoholic for a while and did go to meetings but stopped. I was hoping the meetings would help.

Quoting Brain_fart: Grief makes people act in strange ways. Has she ever sought grief counseling?
LoveAll3306
by Party Specialist on Aug. 4, 2017 at 4:21 PM
Have you mentioned it to her? It would help the kids too.

Quoting Anonymous 1: Thabk you. I wish she woould go to therapy.

Quoting LoveAll3306: Im so sorry for your loss. It sounds like she still has a lot of healing to do.
Curlymom234
by Ruby Member on Aug. 4, 2017 at 4:22 PM

this

Quoting Mom2theboy1994:

I honestly think that's how I'll be if my husband dies before me. I know I'll never remarry. Have you talked to her about how she is making her boyfriend feel? Coming from you, her husband's sister, it may help her realize it's ok to move on from your brother. That finding a new relationship doesn't mean she loved your brother any less? Maybe talking to you will help her?


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