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I told my daughter I do not want a relationship with her at all

Anonymous
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I gave her up for adoption 20 years ago. I was in a bad spot in my life and was not fit to be a mother at all. I of course was devastated about it but in all these years I have come to terms with it. She went to a nice family that could provide her with anything she would ever need. 

I wanted a closed adoption. I wanted to be able to "move on" with my life as much as I could. I wanted that to be the start of my new life where I made good choices. That was my first good choice. I wanted it to always be closed. 

Well now my life is good. I am happily married and have a career I love. My life is good where it is now. 

Well she contacted me. She wants to meet me and my family and get to know us. I replied saying sorry I was not interested. 

I dont feel the need to meet her. I wanted it closed for a reason. 

Posted by Anonymous on Aug. 8, 2017 at 3:54 PM
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LightItUp
by RitatheGreat on Aug. 8, 2017 at 3:55 PM
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I don't even know what to say
Franny76
by Silver Member on Aug. 8, 2017 at 3:55 PM
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Oh that's sad. But you sound like you're doing her a favor.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Aug. 8, 2017 at 3:56 PM
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You suck.
LadyGigi
by Platinum Member on Aug. 8, 2017 at 3:57 PM
I think it would be a nice gesture to at least meet her for lunch or dinner once, but if you don't want a relationship with her it's good you made that clear.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Aug. 8, 2017 at 3:57 PM
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Wow. How do you sleep at night? Do you find it difficult to stomach the decisions you make, or are you just a complete narcissist? Or a troll...please be a troll.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Aug. 8, 2017 at 3:58 PM
I guess she's better off without you. But you suck as a person and I hope your other kids cut out from their lives
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Aug. 8, 2017 at 4:01 PM

Just because I wanted a closed adoption doesnt mean I suck 

Quoting Anonymous 4: I guess she's better off without you. But you suck as a person and I hope your other kids cut out from their lives


Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Aug. 8, 2017 at 4:01 PM
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That's what usually happens with adoption and it's one of the reasons why I'm pro-choice.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Aug. 8, 2017 at 4:02 PM

At first I didnt sleep at all. But I grieved the adoption and the loss and then I started moving on with my life. 

I never thought I would have to talk to her ever again and I am okay with that.

Quoting Anonymous 3: Wow. How do you sleep at night? Do you find it difficult to stomach the decisions you make, or are you just a complete narcissist? Or a troll...please be a troll.


Lunarprancer
by Betsy on Aug. 8, 2017 at 4:03 PM
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How did she find you?

Quoting Anonymous 1:

Just because I wanted a closed adoption doesnt mean I suck 

Quoting Anonymous 4: I guess she's better off without you. But you suck as a person and I hope your other kids cut out from their lives



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