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You catch your teen in a lie . . . what do you do?

Anonymous
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I caught my 14-year old daughter in a lie.  She also disobeyed me. 

The lie involved her location (she was instructed not to be hanging out with older guys in a parking lot, of all things) . . . I track her iPhone with Find My Phone.  (She is aware of this.)  I called her and asked where she was and who she was with and when I reminded her that I didn't want her to be hanging out in that parking lot, she said she wasn't, just walking past. She was supposed to be at the beach with one girlfriend.

And then, a few minutes later, she texted me to tell me her phone was dying and she suddenly turned it off after giving me someone else's number to text if I needed her. 

I could tell from Find My Phone that her phone was NOT dying - it was fully charged. 

Anyway. 

I drove immediately to the parking lot where I suspected I'd find her and there she was with a bunch of losers in clouds of smoke.

I gave her a choice (as she was walking away from the group) . . . get in the car or I would park and follow her.  Ha ha.

She got in the car.


So, if you caught your teen in a lie--and this wasn't the first time--what would you do? 


Posted by Anonymous on Aug. 13, 2017 at 2:23 AM
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by Anonymous 2 on Aug. 13, 2017 at 2:24 AM
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Lying is a spankable offense. Especially about things like that. And no, she's not too old
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by Anonymous 3 on Aug. 13, 2017 at 2:29 AM
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Grounding. No technology, no time away from the house with friends, school and home only. After 2 weeks give her small freedoms and build the trust back up, remove things if she breaks it and go longer in between giving things back.
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by Anonymous 4 on Aug. 13, 2017 at 2:30 AM
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My 14 yr old wouldn't have had that much freedom in the first place. You gave her too much rope to hang herself with. But for consequences, she would lose the phone, and she'd be under constant supervision. She'd also be writing papers. One on the dangers that young girls face in today's world,(human trafficking, abduction,etc) and one on the effects of drugs on brain cells.
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by Anonymous 5 on Aug. 13, 2017 at 2:31 AM
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I figure out why my kid is participating in risky behaviour and remind her that lying to me equals losing my trust, and therefore her ability to do things that require me to trust her.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Aug. 13, 2017 at 2:32 AM
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Spanking a 14yo is ridiculous.

Quoting Anonymous 2: Lying is a spankable offense. Especially about things like that. And no, she's not too old
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by Anonymous 6 on Aug. 13, 2017 at 2:37 AM
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Seriously? At that age I would have loved a simple spanking for my actions. So much quicker than being grounded or having privileges taken away. A spanking would have never deterred me from doing whatever I damn well pleased.

Quoting Anonymous 2: Lying is a spankable offense. Especially about things like that. And no, she's not too old
Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Aug. 13, 2017 at 2:38 AM
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I would have taken pictures of the group before getting out of my car. Then I would have demanded to see everyones id. If anyone was over 18, I would have called the police.
The lying teen would lose her phone until she is 18. She would not have access to any social media sites and her life as she knew it......would be completely over.
If I cant trust you then I will treat you like a young child. I will drive you to and from school and at anytime I may pop up to make sure dhes there
Anonymous
by Anonymous 8 on Aug. 13, 2017 at 2:40 AM
Handcuff her to a radiator heater, and dump fire ants on her.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 8 on Aug. 13, 2017 at 2:41 AM
Call the police for what exactly, being in proximity to a minor, talking to a minor?

Quoting Anonymous 7: I would have taken pictures of the group before getting out of my car. Then I would have demanded to see everyones id. If anyone was over 18, I would have called the police.
The lying teen would lose her phone until she is 18. She would not have access to any social media sites and her life as she knew it......would be completely over.
If I cant trust you then I will treat you like a young child. I will drive you to and from school and at anytime I may pop up to make sure dhes there
Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Aug. 13, 2017 at 2:43 AM
Contributing to the delinquency of a minor by providing cigarettes, weed and alcohol to said teen

Quoting Anonymous 8: Call the police for what exactly, being in proximity to a minor, talking to a minor?

Quoting Anonymous 7: I would have taken pictures of the group before getting out of my car. Then I would have demanded to see everyones id. If anyone was over 18, I would have called the police.
The lying teen would lose her phone until she is 18. She would not have access to any social media sites and her life as she knew it......would be completely over.
If I cant trust you then I will treat you like a young child. I will drive you to and from school and at anytime I may pop up to make sure dhes there
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