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Anonymous
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Long story but my adult son lives with me temporarily with his 2 kids. I watch his kids 4 night a week for him to work regardless. He's lived with me in the past and I've had issues with him being irresponsible, leaving his kids with me without asking, and making messes. He can be really rude to me too. He only lives here because his roommate left and he couldn't pay the rent. I didn't want him to be homeless. I didn't want my grandkids homeless.

Here are my rules:
Pick up after yourself and kids. Put your dishes in the dishwasher.
No leaving your kids with me or your sisters without asking first.
No talking rude or disrespectful
Be responsible and save money to move out.
Get up with your kids not expect me to take care of them in the morning
No doing laundry after bedtime
Change your kids diapers and take care of their needs (don't wait for me to do it or expect me to do it)

He's says I'm being unreasonable. Especially about the cleaning and getting up with the kids. He yelled at me about it yesterday.

My response is if that's how he feels he has to move out as soon as possible because if he doesn't respect my expectations then he can't live here.

Regardless he has to follow those rules still while here.
Posted by Anonymous on Aug. 13, 2017 at 9:27 AM
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SAHMJC
by Emerald Member on Aug. 13, 2017 at 9:30 AM
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Where is the kid's mother? It's a little scary if he's the better of the two options for these kids
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Aug. 13, 2017 at 9:30 AM

It's absolutely reasonable. And, TBH, your son sounds like a loser. Where is the kids mother?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Aug. 13, 2017 at 9:30 AM

See ya kid.  Sounds like he needs a better job if he can't provide for his kids without relying on a roommate.  

kgsharber
by Platinum Member on Aug. 13, 2017 at 9:31 AM
Those poor kids.


And it seems like your son is overwhelmed and can't really handle 2 kids.
Teeshann
by Platinum Member on Aug. 13, 2017 at 9:31 AM
Not unreasonable, they are his kids. He should be taking care of them.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Aug. 13, 2017 at 9:31 AM
The kids mom is a drug addict. Not involved. Unfortunately he's the better option.

Quoting SAHMJC: Where is the kid's mother? It's a little scary if he's the better of the two options for these kids
AppleBlossom16
by Member on Aug. 13, 2017 at 9:32 AM
Weres the mother? He sounds like he needs to grow up and stop being so damn lazy. How was he managing to look after his kids before?
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Aug. 13, 2017 at 9:32 AM
She's an addict.

Quoting Anonymous 2:

It's absolutely reasonable. And, TBH, your son sounds like a loser. Where is the kids mother?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Aug. 13, 2017 at 9:33 AM
I agree but he had the kids not me. I already do so much for the little ones.

He does okay with the kids when he tries though.

Quoting kgsharber: Those poor kids.


And it seems like your son is overwhelmed and can't really handle 2 kids.
KairisMama
by Emerald Member on Aug. 13, 2017 at 9:34 AM
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It's very reasonable
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