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Updated - target isn't charging us any money

Anonymous
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My son is the kid who stole.

Yesterday I finally spoke to someone.

They want my son to do diversion.

Here's what would be involved:::

1. Go to school.

Ok great that's easy. He's never played hooky.

2. Get good grades.

Okay again no problem. His grades ARE good from last year.

3. Complete 15-20 hours of community service at a non profit.

Okay. As long as my son can do that on the weekends, so dad can drive him, no issue.

4. Write a 10 page single spaced essay on why lying to the police is a bad thing.

Ok no issues. That's fine.

5. Pay a $50 fee for diversion.

Ugh. We are a lower income family. And Target can send us a demand letter for $250+ $5,000 in fines. Well, $50 isn't horrible until you tack on $250 + $5000 + $50. I don't have $5,300 fucking dollars.

6. Have him get 10 hours of counseling that we are responsible for paying for. I don't have it.

7. Pay all fines and restitution. Again, I don't have $5,300.

8. Have both parents join him at a class for parenting and kids skills, where we have to go every Monday for 3 Monday's from 5pm to 9:30pm. Now first, dad works until 5:30. By the time he got there it'd be 6. Nor can I afford a sitter for his siblings. Nor do I have family or friends who can do it.nor do I have a car so we are talking I'd have to take a bus there. Plus why the heck am I being punished for what HE did?

9. Have a strict curfew of 8pm for my son.

That one is no problem.

I have a herniated disc in my back and should be resting.

We are on one income due to circumstances beyond our control, One of my children requires constant care and so that's what I do, I care for him.

I could just scream. I'm so mad at my son who stole.

This program won't work for us.

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Called Target who sent me to their law office. The law office says they have decided that they won't be charging us for the money.

So no $250 and no $5,000.


I called the lady who does diversion.

She listened and said there are alternatives to not doing that parenting/child communication class.

She would suggest one that would be better suited to our situation.

She also said that the $50 can be broken up ito $5 increments a month.

She asked if I have state medical for him and I do and she said that they will pay for his counseling.

I am so relieved right now.
Posted by Anonymous on Aug. 17, 2017 at 12:10 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Aug. 17, 2017 at 12:14 PM
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Make it work. You are responsible for your kids actions.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Aug. 17, 2017 at 12:15 PM
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Call his school and ask about counseling services through the school. Don't assume Target is going to demand the $5000 until you hear something from them. Even if they do you might be able to work out a payment plan.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Aug. 17, 2017 at 12:16 PM
I can't make it work I just said that. How in the hell is what he did my fault? We've taught him not to lie and not to steal and he didn't listen. Again there is no way in the world I can make this work.

Quoting Anonymous 2: Make it work. You are responsible for your kids actions.
3gr8tKids
by Platinum Member on Aug. 17, 2017 at 12:16 PM


Quoting Anonymous 2: Make it work. You are responsible for your kids actions.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Aug. 17, 2017 at 12:16 PM
I can barely pay all our bills. I can't afford to even do a payment plan.

Quoting Anonymous 3: Call his school and ask about counseling services through the school. Don't assume Target is going to demand the $5000 until you hear something from them. Even if they do you might be able to work out a payment plan.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Aug. 17, 2017 at 12:17 PM
I didn't do this my stupid son did.

Quoting 3gr8tKids:

Quoting Anonymous 2: Make it work. You are responsible for your kids actions.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Aug. 17, 2017 at 12:18 PM
And by the way dad could lose his job he has to be there until 5:30 I won't have him lose his job

Quoting Anonymous 2: Make it work. You are responsible for your kids actions.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Aug. 17, 2017 at 12:18 PM
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Most of those programs have a system so the heathen pays the fees not the parents, even if it's like $10 a month.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Aug. 17, 2017 at 12:19 PM
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Doesn't matter. You are responsible until he is an adult.

Quoting Anonymous 1: I can't make it work I just said that. How in the hell is what he did my fault? We've taught him not to lie and not to steal and he didn't listen. Again there is no way in the world I can make this work.

Quoting Anonymous 2: Make it work. You are responsible for your kids actions.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Aug. 17, 2017 at 12:19 PM
He's 15. He can't get a job out here

Quoting Anonymous 4: Most of those programs have a system so the heathen pays the fees not the parents, even if it's like $10 a month.
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