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BM says DH is being the bad parent...

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4 years ago, BM asked DH to consent to her moving with her husband back to his hometown so he could help his parents and his brother with their family business.  DH didn't agree to it, so they took it to court.  It is 1100 miles from where we live.  All of DH's family, my family, and BM's family is here.    

The judge let her move, but she is 100% responsible for their flights here and their return flights.  That includes any unaccompained minor fees.  Every 9 weeks, they get a 2 week break from school.  He also gets the full summer vacation (8 weeks) with her having the option of ONE week in the middle, but again, responsbile for their flights and fees.  She is to have them here the day after school lets out and they return the day before school starts.   They had 50/50 before the move, so that is why the judge gave him all extended school breaks.  She was warned by the judge if she didn't send them, he would give custody to DH and she would still be responsible for their flights to visit her, since she is the one moving away from their father and extended family.    

Usually BM only argues about their winter break because it means DH has them every year for Christmas.  DH tells her every year if she wants to come back here, she can see them, but she made the choice to move, so this is what she has to deal with.  

She called him a few days ago and told him she isn't going to have the money for fall break flights.  She lost her job (wouldn't tell him why) and they didn't have the "extra" money for the flights.  

It's the 1st 2 weeks of October.  He said he didn't care what she had to do to find the money, but his kids better be here Sept.30th.  

She said there was no way, she couldn't do it.  He offered to pay for their flights here, but she had to pay for their return AND she had until the end of October to pay him back or he would take it to court.  She said that didn't help either.  He had to pay for both flights or they weren't coming.  

He told her he pays her $1500 a month in child support.  That is MORE than enough to find the money for the flights.  She continued to argue, saying he had to pay or they weren't coming.  He said if they're not here when they're supposed to be, he will be filing for contempt and reminding the judge what he said about him getting custody if she failed to send them for their breaks.  He also reminded her she would still be responsible for their air fare and the fact that she would be the one paying him child support.  

She screamed at him he was the worst father ever, she is glad she left him (she left him for her now husband after a 6 month affair.)  She then hung up on him.

DH sent her an email saying this was her one and only reminder that she is to send his children to him Sept 30th and they will return Oct 15.  If they are not here, he will file for contempt and for full custody Oct 2nd.  He also restated his willingness to pay for their flight here, provided she pays for the return flight and has until Nov1st to reimburse him.

She emailed back saying she told him she didn't have the money and if he really wanted to see them, he would pay for the flights.  

Looks like DH is heading to court.   

Posted by Anonymous on Aug. 22, 2017 at 9:01 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Aug. 22, 2017 at 9:04 AM
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Good. I hope he gets custody and those kids get to come back home.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Aug. 22, 2017 at 9:05 AM
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You should absolutely mind your own business. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Aug. 22, 2017 at 9:05 AM
Good luck with that.
ReedusStalker
by 11-15/3-27 on Aug. 22, 2017 at 9:07 AM
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Good that he emailed her so he has can show the courts what he actually said.  Maybe he should only talk to her through emails so he can have proof of everything, you know?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Aug. 22, 2017 at 9:07 AM
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Don't blame him one bit.
krisnkids
by Gold Member on Aug. 22, 2017 at 9:07 AM
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How many kids?

GentleHeartsPA
by Lanie on Aug. 22, 2017 at 9:07 AM
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I cant even with this.
Your DH is a douche.
The woman lost her job.
But hey lets make her scratch pennies and take from the kids finances for ONE visit.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Aug. 22, 2017 at 9:08 AM
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I can't believe how easily selfish parents are willing to upend their children's lives in custody battles.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Aug. 22, 2017 at 9:08 AM
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That judge was an idiot.
No parent should have to go to court to get permission to move. It's a violation of their civil rights. Those are his children too he should be Required to pay for half.
EarlGrayHot
by Platinum Member on Aug. 22, 2017 at 9:08 AM
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I wouldn't give her any leeway or offer to pay for anything the courst said she had to pay.

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