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Who was right

Anonymous
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This is a situation my cousin is in.

Her husband was in a car accident. She was brought to the hospital he was brain dead. Even though he was not on very good terms with his family and hadn't been for years she called his family.

She made the decision to pull the plug and donate his organs. His family did not agree with this decision and tried to fight her on it. She told them that if they can't be civil she would call security and have them escorted out. When it came time to finally pull the plug she wanted a few minutes alone with just her her kids and him. After that she had the kids taken out by her mom and she wanted to be the only one in the room when he was let go. I'm not sure why but she felt very strongly about that. She gave all family members a chance to say goodbye but when the plug was pulled she wanted to be alone in there with him.

She has decided to have him cremated. His family doesn't like that either because they feel like if he's buried there will be a headstone that they can all go visit whenever they want. But if he's cremated that ashes are in her possession. She doesn't want the ashes split. She is paying for all funeral costs.

They are also angry that she is not giving them any of the life insurance policy. They have kids together and the money is to help her support the kids. But for some reason they feel entitled to it

His family is very angry that she did not give them say in these decisions. I personally feel like as she was the wife this was her decision and they should have respected it. I also don't understand why they think they have any right to any say since they haven't been on good terms for years. If it matters the reason between his split with his family and they didn't like his wife. Nothing really that she did she just wasn't what they thought was right person
Posted by Anonymous on Sep. 13, 2017 at 4:20 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Sep. 13, 2017 at 4:21 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Sep. 13, 2017 at 4:23 PM
Who are the beneficiaries on the life insurance?
cupcake7734
by Platinum Member on Sep. 13, 2017 at 4:25 PM
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She was his next of kin, and had every legal right to do what she wished. You don't get to suddenly act like you're the Cleavers when something like this happens after years of little to no contact. Team Cousin 100%.
mojogirl
by Ouiser Boudreaux on Sep. 13, 2017 at 4:26 PM

they can bitch and moan all they want but unless he had legal documents stating otherwise then she is the medical decision maker. and unless he had life insurance policies with them as the beneficiaries then they aren't entitled to a dime.

i feel bad for your cousin.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Sep. 13, 2017 at 4:26 PM
She is with it being split amongst the kids if is she died as well. But of course she didn't

Quoting Anonymous 2: Who are the beneficiaries on the life insurance?
krisnkids
by Gold Member on Sep. 13, 2017 at 4:26 PM

She's right, the family is psychotic. Hugs to her. She may want to hire an attorney just to keep them at arms distance as much as possible.

CorpCityGrl
by Ruby Member on Sep. 13, 2017 at 4:28 PM

He was estranged from his family for a while and she was being courteous in calling them and including them in all of this. She did not have to. She was his wife and as such responsible for making the decisions and she decided as to what was fit for them. And I don't see why they even for a second think they are entitled to any monies from his life insurance policy. That's just greed. 

They need to go back to not having contact again.

ejkdmom
by Gold Member on Sep. 13, 2017 at 4:28 PM
Sounds like there was a good reason why he wasn't in contact with his family. She did the decent thing to let them know and now she needs to block them for good.
Dinimon
by NoName on Sep. 13, 2017 at 4:29 PM
They can wish in one hand and shit in the other and see which one fills up first. If she's his next of kin, and the beneficiary of the life insurance policy, they can't to shit about it.
owl0210
by Sapphire Member on Sep. 13, 2017 at 4:30 PM
His family has zero say since she is the next of kin and the beneficiary.
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