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He asked our son to steal!

Posted by on Sep. 19, 2017 at 8:37 AM
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Quick backstory: My exdh and I divorced in 2012 when our son was 13. Ex is disabled due to multiple illnesses and has also been diagnosed with bipolar disorder. He became abusive, and truly was abusive much of our marriage.

DS stays with him as "caretaker" so ex recieves a check for him as well.

Since the divorce, ex has been homeless 3 times, most recently just before Irma hit. So DS moves back in with me, bringing his cats with him.

last night, ex calls DS, who answers infront of me, and says, "I'm hungry. See if you can steal 20 bucks from that bitch's wallet."

DS is devastated. As much as I was the "bad guy" in the divorce, for not wanting to put up with the abuse any longer, asking your kid to steal from your mom is just...just...

Ugh. I gave him 20 bucks to give to his dad, because I don't believe anyone should go hungry.  He told his dad I gave it to him for a haircut because otherwise his dad wouldn't take it.

So it's okay to steal from me, but not take an offering because of pride.

He is so messed up.

by on Sep. 19, 2017 at 8:37 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Sep. 19, 2017 at 8:40 AM
My dad is similiar not that he would ask to steal idt.... He is very hard to explain. Let's just say I feel like the adult in situations.
littlesippycup
by Baby T-rex Arms on Sep. 19, 2017 at 8:40 AM
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Yeah I wouldn't encourage that relationship at all. I also would have let the fucker be hungry.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Sep. 19, 2017 at 8:42 AM
I would let the pos starve. You are a betrer person than me.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Sep. 19, 2017 at 8:43 AM
My dad used to have us steal for him. It's messed up
donnag013
by Platinum Member on Sep. 19, 2017 at 8:43 AM

I pray a LOT for the man. He is going to hell, and needs to get right.

And DS is 18, so I can't choose for him. I fought tooth and nail to keep custody, even as ds aged and his father tried to get him to stop seeing me.

Quoting littlesippycup: Yeah I wouldn't encourage that relationship at all. I also would have let the fucker be hungry.


Johnsmom5892
by Hope on Sep. 19, 2017 at 8:45 AM
Thank goodness you are divorced. He sounds like a douche.
littlesippycup
by Baby T-rex Arms on Sep. 19, 2017 at 8:46 AM
You're a better person than me. Hugs and prayers for you and your son.

Quoting donnag013:

I pray a LOT for the man. He is going to hell, and needs to get right.

And DS is 18, so I can't choose for him. I fought tooth and nail to keep custody, even as ds aged and his father tried to get him to stop seeing me.

Quoting littlesippycup: Yeah I wouldn't encourage that relationship at all. I also would have let the fucker be hungry.

donnag013
by Platinum Member on Sep. 19, 2017 at 8:46 AM

Sadly, this is not the first time, either. What kind of parent does this!!

Quoting Anonymous 3: My dad used to have us steal for him. It's messed up


Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Sep. 19, 2017 at 8:46 AM
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I really don't understand why you gave him the money, and told him to lie. Why are you giving your son the impression that what his father said was okay and should be rewarded?
JalynSpoon
by CajunTarHeel on Sep. 19, 2017 at 8:54 AM

Better hide your stuff just in case..

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