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I think my son is anorexic and no doctors will take me seriously.

Anonymous
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I really don't think anyone cares or believes it. He's 17 years old and weighs maybe 80 pounds. He's so thin his ribs stick out. He's extremely picky about food, and will sometimes go days without eating because "nothing sounds good". When he does eat, its like a tiny piece of plain chicken, or half a single slice of pizza and that's it for the whole day. He's not healthy, he's depressed, has no social life. I've tried taking him to therapy, but he refuses to go. I can't get him further specialized treatment without a referral and no doctor will give me a referral because they say he's fine and nothing is wrong. I've gone to 6 different doctors and not one has taken me seriously.

I'm at my wits end. I don't know what to do. Eating maybe 2000 calories a WEEK, if that, is not normal!!!
Posted by Anonymous on Sep. 21, 2017 at 8:46 PM
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mrsmom110
by NO on Sep. 21, 2017 at 8:51 PM
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That's ridiculous that not one Dr. would listen to your concerns.  The summer before my son's Freshman year, he cut his calories way back and started exercising like crazy.  He went overboard, so I took him to the Dr. and the Dr. told him how many calories he should be consuming, and gave him some other nutritional & fitness advice.

Have you looked into a place that treats people with eating disorders?  I know you said you need a referral, but I'd bet the initial consultation wouldn't be too much w/out one. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Sep. 21, 2017 at 8:58 PM
I can't remember, maybe the 2nd or 3rd one we talked to, told us that he was a boy and anorexia wasn't a concern. That seems to be the running train of thought in this stupid hick town. I don't even know of any places that treat eating disorders, is that something that I could find online?

Quoting mrsmom110:

That's ridiculous that not one Dr. would listen to your concerns.  The summer before my son's Freshman year, he cut his calories way back and started exercising like crazy.  He went overboard, so I took him to the Dr. and the Dr. told him how many calories he should be consuming, and gave him some other nutritional & fitness advice.

Have you looked into a place that treats people with eating disorders?  I know you said you need a referral, but I'd bet the initial consultation wouldn't be too much w/out one. 

K3412
by Platinum Member on Sep. 21, 2017 at 9:01 PM
I would take him to a doctor that specializes in eating disorders. It could be your sons life on the line.
mrsmom110
by NO on Sep. 21, 2017 at 9:02 PM
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Yes.  Or from your insurance company.  

Those doctors are ignorant if they don't think males can have eating disorders.  I hope you find your son the help he needs.  GL

Quoting Anonymous 1: I can't remember, maybe the 2nd or 3rd one we talked to, told us that he was a boy and anorexia wasn't a concern. That seems to be the running train of thought in this stupid hick town. I don't even know of any places that treat eating disorders, is that something that I could find online?
Quoting mrsmom110:

That's ridiculous that not one Dr. would listen to your concerns.  The summer before my son's Freshman year, he cut his calories way back and started exercising like crazy.  He went overboard, so I took him to the Dr. and the Dr. told him how many calories he should be consuming, and gave him some other nutritional & fitness advice.

Have you looked into a place that treats people with eating disorders?  I know you said you need a referral, but I'd bet the initial consultation wouldn't be too much w/out one. 


Jamie1972
by Ruby Member on Sep. 21, 2017 at 9:03 PM
Why can't you make him go to thearpy? My ds16 didn't want to go to thearpy over the summer told he had to go because there's something happening and he's not talking to me or dad.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Sep. 21, 2017 at 10:03 PM
Because he would run away before we left, or go and not say anything the whole time.

Quoting Jamie1972: Why can't you make him go to thearpy? My ds16 didn't want to go to thearpy over the summer told he had to go because there's something happening and he's not talking to me or dad.
livric
by Platinum Member on Sep. 21, 2017 at 10:05 PM

sorry you are going through this!!  can you travel out of town to a different dr??

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Sep. 21, 2017 at 10:06 PM
Is he in any extracurricular activities? I struggle with anorexia and it actually took my friends telling me now nasty I looked before I made any changes
bleumonster
by Sapphire Member on Sep. 21, 2017 at 10:07 PM
Damn. It is more likely in girls but boys can have eating disorders. You need a specialist.

Quoting Anonymous 1: I can't remember, maybe the 2nd or 3rd one we talked to, told us that he was a boy and anorexia wasn't a concern. That seems to be the running train of thought in this stupid hick town. I don't even know of any places that treat eating disorders, is that something that I could find online?

Quoting mrsmom110:

That's ridiculous that not one Dr. would listen to your concerns.  The summer before my son's Freshman year, he cut his calories way back and started exercising like crazy.  He went overboard, so I took him to the Dr. and the Dr. told him how many calories he should be consuming, and gave him some other nutritional & fitness advice.

Have you looked into a place that treats people with eating disorders?  I know you said you need a referral, but I'd bet the initial consultation wouldn't be too much w/out one. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Sep. 21, 2017 at 10:09 PM
You can't be serious. Why haven't you already found help for him or started letting him have milkshakes three meals a day?
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