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I'm not tuff enough :(

Anonymous
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I'm strange and I have trouble socializing. I have zero self esteem. I'm dealing with a few situations where I'm letting people walk all over me and its making me miserable. One is a coworker. I tried to talk to her but she's so intimidating that I ended up crying. Now she's even worse because she knows I'm weak. I genuinely want to learn how to stand up for myself. Suggestions please. Am I the only person who feels weak like this? Why am I so pathetic?
Posted by Anonymous on Sep. 29, 2017 at 7:35 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Sep. 29, 2017 at 7:37 PM
BUMP
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Sep. 29, 2017 at 7:38 PM
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PinkButterfly66
by Sapphire Member on Sep. 29, 2017 at 7:38 PM

Practice in front of a mirror what you want to say.  Practice with friends and family members who will help you be more assertive.  

Left.Right.Left
by Gold Member on Sep. 29, 2017 at 7:38 PM
What's the coworker doing to you?
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Sep. 29, 2017 at 7:39 PM
How long have you felt this way? How were things in your family growing up?
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Sep. 29, 2017 at 7:39 PM

1/10

.oOPoisonOo.
by Silver Member on Sep. 29, 2017 at 7:40 PM

Jesus Christ on a club cracker

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Sep. 29, 2017 at 7:40 PM
That's a good idea. I'll try that. Thank you!

Quoting PinkButterfly66:

Practice in front of a mirror what you want to say.  Practice with friends and family members who will help you be more assertive.  

onethentwins
by Ruby Member on Sep. 29, 2017 at 7:40 PM

Yeah sorry IDK. Back in the 80's there were all kinds of self help groups for people like you. I remember there was a group that used to meet near the restaurant I worked at. Afterward they'd come in and try and act all assertive. They were called EST I think. 

Maybe you could find a self help book. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Sep. 29, 2017 at 7:43 PM
My job is dependent on her job. When she messes up it messes me up. I have to tell her what I need to do my job. She doesn't get me those things and throws me under the bus and lets everyone at work believe I'm not doing my job. She has also ordered lunch for the staff meetings and I'm the only one she didn't get food for.

Quoting Left.Right.Left: What's the coworker doing to you?
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