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If your DH said to you

Anonymous
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You have a child with a lot of behavior problems.

If your DH said to you that if he could go back and not date a woman with kids like yours would that upset you?

Your DH has a child on the spectrum with some issues but mostly relating to autism not just plain behavioral.

What if he said he'd choose you, but not your kid? Would that be upsetting to you?

He says the reason he feels that way is because he is useless with your child. He isn't but he feels that way. And he feels he cannot help her so in his mind if he isn't helping he's hurting. That isn't true but it's how he feels. It's frustrating for him not being able to help your child because of a douchey ex husband who is fighting therapy. So there's been a lot of court visits trying to get it ordered and maybe it will get better but for now it's not.

Your child and his also butt heads and fight a lot.
Posted by Anonymous on Sep. 29, 2017 at 7:45 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Sep. 29, 2017 at 7:50 PM
Bump.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Sep. 29, 2017 at 7:52 PM

I wouldn't be able to get over it.  It would be the end.

RachelBy
by Gold Member on Sep. 29, 2017 at 7:52 PM
Yes it would upset me. That would have been a huge factor before I married him too..
Chilebean2010
by Silver Member on Sep. 29, 2017 at 7:53 PM
Depends. Is he saying this in anger? Or saddness, depression?
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Sep. 29, 2017 at 7:57 PM
I'm with him. I wouldn't ever date a guy who had a kid with problems. Too much crap to deal with. And honestly most parents let their special need kids do whatever they want and use their disability to justify bad behavior.
notjstasocermom
by Sapphire Member on Sep. 29, 2017 at 7:58 PM
Yes it would
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Sep. 29, 2017 at 8:03 PM
I think sadness. I think it hurts him that he can't help. And also frustration.

Quoting Chilebean2010: Depends. Is he saying this in anger? Or saddness, depression?
3gr8tKids
by Platinum Member on Sep. 29, 2017 at 8:05 PM
It doesn't matter what I think, what do you think?
Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Sep. 29, 2017 at 8:07 PM
It would bother me - he should have considered all of this when you first met.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Sep. 29, 2017 at 8:14 PM
I'm just trying to figure out why it would upset someone being told that.

Quoting 3gr8tKids: It doesn't matter what I think, what do you think?
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