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We are sending SD to boarding school and BM is against it

Anonymous
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To be clear DH has full physical and legal custody.  BM gets the step kids 5 weeks during the summer and 2 weeks around Christmas. 

SD got an offer to go to a great boarding school. It is a school that focuses on STEM subjects and by the time she graduates high school she will not only have an associates degree but other credits towards a bachelors (a large portion of the classes transfer as college credits). It will also give her a lot of hands on experience and open the door to more scholarships and internships. 

DH told BM of the plans. She got so mad. She said that if he didnt want to see SD on a daily basis he should just let her move with BM. That a good father wouldnt just send his kid away so he doesnt have to deal with them. That isnt why it is happening at all. We will still get to see her ever weekend and for all big events (the school is an hour and a half away). 

DH isnt the most excited about not seeing her every day but this is a great opportunity for SD. The school is an amazing boarding school and they want SD to attend. It is too good of an opportunity to pass up. 

She is threatening to take it back to court but it wont matter. She doesnt have a say in those kinds of decisions. DH has 100% legal custody which gives him all the decision making power. She has tried to take it back to court multiple times and the judge always tells her the same thing... she gets her visitation but the rest of the year DH is 100% in control. Plus no judge is going to force a kid to miss out on going to a great school because their mom, who has no legal  say or custody, doesnt like it


Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 21, 2017 at 10:51 AM
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LeftieX
by Ruby Member on Oct. 21, 2017 at 10:56 AM
Does SD have a say in this?

(and, isn't this a recent rerun?)
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 21, 2017 at 10:56 AM

SD wants to go 

Quoting LeftieX: Does SD have a say in this? (and, isn't this a recent rerun?)


Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Oct. 21, 2017 at 10:59 AM
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What does SD want. If it's something she wants to do why would anyone stand in her way of pursuing a great educational opportunity? Especially if it is something she desires to do.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Oct. 21, 2017 at 10:59 AM
The custody agreement doesn’t negate her as SD mother. She gets a say and I agree with her.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 21, 2017 at 11:00 AM

SD wants to go. She is excited about it 

Quoting Anonymous 2: What does SD want. If it's something she wants to do why would anyone stand in her way of pursuing a great educational opportunity?


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 21, 2017 at 11:00 AM
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Legally she has no say. She can say she doesnt like it but at the end of the day that doesnt matter

Please explain to me why it would be better for SD to miss out on this great opportunity 

Quoting Anonymous 3: The custody agreement doesn’t negate her as SD mother. She gets a say and I agree with her.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Oct. 21, 2017 at 11:01 AM
How convenient that he manages to both keep his child away from her mother, AND manages to send his child away to spend time with replacement wife.
I've never heard of a boarding school that provides both a HS diploma and an associates degree. Not saying this doesn't exist, but usually, boarding schools are college prep.
auntiemom2002
by Member on Oct. 21, 2017 at 11:02 AM
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What kind of parent wouldn't want this kind of advantage for their kid? Her future is going to be golden!
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 21, 2017 at 11:02 AM
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Lol Thank you for the laugh. We sill have 5 other kids between the two of us so SD going to boarding school doesnt change all that much... but of course we will miss her. 

You have never heard of dual enrollment programs or credit transfer programs?

Quoting Anonymous 4: How convenient that he manages to both keep his child away from her mother, AND manages to send his child away to spend time with replacement wife. I've never heard of a boarding school that provides both a HS diploma and an associates degree. Not saying this doesn't exist, but usually, boarding schools are college prep.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Oct. 21, 2017 at 11:03 AM
Well then there you have it. DH is giving her the opportunity to pursue this, BM doesn't have custody and let her do what she needs to do to cope, I guess taking ex to court is how she copes. Ignore her.

Quoting Anonymous 1:

SD wants to go. She is excited about it 

Quoting Anonymous 2: What does SD want. If it's something she wants to do why would anyone stand in her way of pursuing a great educational opportunity?

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