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Sisters destination wedding

Anonymous
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My sister recently got engaged (yay!). She wants her wedding to be in nyc where her fiancee lives to accommodate the elders in his family. We (as in) a majority of our side of the family live in California. The issue is theres no way i can afford to take my family of 5 to nyc. Other members of the family have voiced this as well. What would be the best way to make up for not attending? I feel horrible for not being able to go but its just not going to be possible :(
Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 23, 2017 at 3:03 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Oct. 23, 2017 at 3:05 PM
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Does your sister live in California now?  Perhaps suggest that they can come out to the west coast for a celebration and offer to help plan it? 

Can you go on your own? 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Oct. 23, 2017 at 3:06 PM
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Get married in NYC and have a family reception on california.
happinessforyou
by Platinum Member on Oct. 23, 2017 at 3:08 PM
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How come you can't attend your sister's wedding? You don't have to take all 5 of you for a fast weekend trip.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Oct. 23, 2017 at 3:10 PM
Have her live stream the wedding so you can virtually attend.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Oct. 23, 2017 at 3:10 PM
Either you go by yourself or have a party for her in California with the rest of the family.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 23, 2017 at 3:11 PM
She does live here in cali. Ive made the suggestion (in attempts to kinda let her down with the bad news that i cant go a little less painful) that she can have a celebration here for those of us who cant go and she got upset. She doesnt want to do that, she prefers to jave just one celebration. I would go alone however she feels that its a family thing. If i can go then i should bring the rest of the family. I feel i cant win.

Quoting Anonymous 2:

Does your sister live in California now?  Perhaps suggest that they can come out to the west coast for a celebration and offer to help plan it? 

Can you go on your own? 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Oct. 23, 2017 at 3:11 PM
Just go yourself.
illogicalkat
by Ruby Member on Oct. 23, 2017 at 3:11 PM
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That is your sister. Go by yourself. She'll understand your kids and husband not attending, but you should not ditch her wedding completely. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 23, 2017 at 3:12 PM
I suggested this to her and she got upset. Insists that if i can go i need to bring the rest of the family.

Quoting happinessforyou:

How come you can't attend your sister's wedding? You don't have to take all 5 of you for a fast weekend trip.

illogicalkat
by Ruby Member on Oct. 23, 2017 at 3:14 PM
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You tell her "tough shit, we can't all come." Ask if she's offering to pay airfare and hotel rooms, if she's that set on everyone being there.

Quoting Anonymous 1: I suggested this to her and she got upset. Insists that if i can go i need to bring the rest of the family.
Quoting happinessforyou:

How come you can't attend your sister's wedding? You don't have to take all 5 of you for a fast weekend trip.


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