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well I guess I'm a awful mom

Posted by on Nov. 18, 2017 at 4:52 PM
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My daughter is 11 . shys has autism and epilepsy. She is one of those kids that would rather be alone . her and a book or a tablet is all she needs. Well I guess a few weeks ago she went to the teacher and asked if she could eat in the classroom . I knee nothing about it .until her aide said something last week. I now and making the teacher make her eat lunch at least one day a week in the cafeteria with the hope that we can increase it.
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by Anonymous 1 on Nov. 18, 2017 at 4:54 PM

Forcing her to be with other kids isn't going to work out well for you. I'll just wait for that post.

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by Anonymous 2 on Nov. 18, 2017 at 4:54 PM
I think you need to make her eat lunch in the lunchroom every day. It's not fair on the teacher to give up her lunch break
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by Anonymous 3 on Nov. 18, 2017 at 4:56 PM
Kids should never eat in the room with the teacher. I can't imagine imposing on her well deserved break.
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by Anonymous 4 on Nov. 18, 2017 at 4:58 PM

Why isn't the Aide sitting with her?

I have an autistic dd who was escorted to the lunchroom and the aide sat with her. That is their job. I know this because I was also a teacher's aide, I had 2 kids to look after and the aide is basically a babysitter for the kids.

pocobuckgal
by Bronze Member on Nov. 18, 2017 at 4:58 PM
She's the one who agreed to it not me. Now we have to slowly transition my daughter back to her normal routine.

Quoting Anonymous 3: Kids should never eat in the room with the teacher. I can't imagine imposing on her well deserved break.
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by Anonymous 5 on Nov. 18, 2017 at 5:00 PM
They have "quiet lunch" at my ds's school. They don't have to be in the cafeteria if they ask permission early on in the day. If I allowed him he would go to quiet lunch every day but he needs to practice social skills so I told him twice a week max for quiet lunch.
pocobuckgal
by Bronze Member on Nov. 18, 2017 at 5:00 PM
Because the aide takes her lunch at that time too as well as she handles my daughters service dog so the dog goes potty and gets a drink at that time .

Quoting Anonymous 4:

Why isn't the Aide sitting with her?

I have an autistic dd who was escorted to the lunchroom and the aide sat with her. That is their job. I know this because I was also a teacher's aide, I had 2 kids to look after and the aide is basically a babysitter for the kids.

pocobuckgal
by Bronze Member on Nov. 18, 2017 at 5:09 PM
If I had my way shed still go to the special needs school she went to a few years ago but the schools special education director said she needs to be around typical peers so by god she is going to be around them and they can deal with meltdowns . hopefully they will let her go back to the special needs school.

Quoting Anonymous 1:

Forcing her to be with other kids isn't going to work out well for you. I'll just wait for that post.

sheramom4
by Emerald Member on Nov. 18, 2017 at 5:19 PM

She should be in the cafeteria with everyone else. The teacher is not only doing your DD a disservice, she is doing herself a disservice and may be violating the terms of her contract. I know the teachers I work with have to take a lunch per their contract. It also follows state law in terms of employment. I am glad you are on top of it. And the teacher should have spoken to you before making a change like that. 

pocobuckgal
by Bronze Member on Nov. 18, 2017 at 6:27 PM
I'm not sure why she agreed to it other than she has a child with autism as well and thought it was something I'd want to accommodate. Um nope .they all tell me she needs to be with Ber non disabled peers then thats where she should be .

Quoting sheramom4:

She should be in the cafeteria with everyone else. The teacher is not only doing your DD a disservice, she is doing herself a disservice and may be violating the terms of her contract. I know the teachers I work with have to take a lunch per their contract. It also follows state law in terms of employment. I am glad you are on top of it. And the teacher should have spoken to you before making a change like that. 

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