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How many disorders can one child have?

Anonymous
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My niece has been struggling since she was eight. Until third grade she was fine. A good student, had friends, all around typical kid. In third grade her grades started slipping. She went from A to C. And she started having a hard time with her friends and ended up with basically no friends.

It wasn't a big surprise to me. My niece is super bossy and pretty spoiled. She and her teacher were constantly butting heads. And her friends got sick of being bossed around. I'm a teacher and this is pretty typical for 3rd and 4th grades.

Her mind started taking her to doctors to find out what was wrong rather than look at her child's behavior to see how it was impacting her.

First she was diagnosed with aspergers. Since then several doctors have disagreed with the diagnosis but her mom clings to it even though specialists have explained why she doesn't have it.

She's 14 here are the things she's been diagnosed with at this point:
Aspergers (which is ASD now)
Depression
Bipolar
A seizure disorder (not epilepsy)
Celiacs disease
Allergies
She's been in inpatient treatment twice and they always send her home after 48 hours because her behavior there is normal.

She now goes to a special school with 6-10 students per grade. And she's totally alienated herself by harassing students with calls and text messages. She showed me her texts. She's texting these kids dozens of times even though she doesn't answer. Her mom thinks the school should tell the other kids to be understanding because of her Autism. But doesn't think it's necessary to monitor her phone use and teach her why it's annoying.

I had a long talk with her about why it's bothering the other kids. She understood and went to school and apologized and hasn't done it since. Her mom thanked me for talking to her but also added she shouldn't have to apologize for being who she is.

I really feel like being diagnosed with autism has made her behavior more atypical because her parents expect it to be.

Before you jump down my throat for thinking I know more than doctors, remember more doctors have said she's not autistic than have said she is.
Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 22, 2017 at 8:21 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Nov. 22, 2017 at 8:26 AM
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Some people just refuse to take responsibility for their own actions.  It's comforting to know that the blame is on someone or something else.

I have a sister who is like this.  She is one messed up bitch.  Thank goodness she was smart enough to not marry and have kids.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Nov. 22, 2017 at 8:27 AM
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I bet she has a yeast overgrowth caused by the celiacs too that can be contributing to her behavior. Very few doctors will test for it. Plus probably a milk allergy. It’s sad to see a kid struggling so much...Even sadder to see a family member dissing her on a public forum acting like she’s doing it on purpose....
Medic32
by Go PREDS! on Nov. 22, 2017 at 8:29 AM
Your sister is ruining her child.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 22, 2017 at 8:30 AM
Where did I say or imply she's doing it on purpose?

She needs help. And jumping from doctor to doctor hasn't helped her. They've totally ignored teaching her about social boundaries that's not her fault.

Quoting Anonymous 3: I bet she has a yeast overgrowth caused by the celiacs too that can be contributing to her behavior. Very few doctors will test for it. Plus probably a milk allergy. It’s sad to see a kid struggling so much...Even sadder to see a family member dissing her on a public forum acting like she’s doing it on purpose....
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 22, 2017 at 8:32 AM
And maybe it is from the celiacs. But because she's spent her whole childhood being medicated and treated for other disorders that was missed.

So you think the way her parents handled it was best for her?

Quoting Anonymous 3: I bet she has a yeast overgrowth caused by the celiacs too that can be contributing to her behavior. Very few doctors will test for it. Plus probably a milk allergy. It’s sad to see a kid struggling so much...Even sadder to see a family member dissing her on a public forum acting like she’s doing it on purpose....
Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Nov. 22, 2017 at 8:35 AM
Texting with an autistic person can be intense. It's definitely something that needs to be worked on with her. Needs some texting social rules. It's sad that her mother doesn't see that.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Nov. 22, 2017 at 8:35 AM
I know a family similar to this instead of dealing with their divorce with therapy they kept bringing her to drs ,it's been 6 years with no diagnosis
And she can't even go to school, has a feeding tube, etc
.but no diagnosis..i believe there is some Munchausen bi proxy going on..
Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Nov. 22, 2017 at 8:37 AM
My nephew is like this. Instead of trying to teach him new behaviors, my stupid BIL wants a label on him.
Linda_Runs
by Gold Member on Nov. 22, 2017 at 8:38 AM

Some of those are totally treatable, but others are going to require more attention.

Sorry you are going through all this as a parent.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 22, 2017 at 8:39 AM
It's my niece.

Quoting Linda_Runs:

Some of those are totally treatable, but others are going to require more attention.

Sorry you are going through all this as a parent.

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