My mom blames me because DD didnt show up to dinner yesterday

[Anonymous]

Even though DD is a grown adult who doesnt live at home... I guess it is my fault. I guess I should have went to wherever she was and dragged her by the ear to my mom's house. 

She didnt let it go at all yesterday. All Thanksgiving she kept making rude comments. I asked her what she wanted me to do. She told me to give DD consequences and cut her off. She is an independent adult... cut her off from what? 

Also there are no consequences to give. It isnt like I can ground her or take away her stuff

My mom is going to be in for a rude awakening if she cant apologize because there is no way in hell I am going to Christmas if she doesnt stop this and say sorry.

[Anonymous 2]

Gee. I wonder why dd didn't want to come to Thanksgiving. You two sound psycho.

[2blessed2bitch]

Nothing you can do. Girl's going to do what she's going to do.

[Anonymous 3]

My mom blames me for stuff like that too. It’s weird.

[redbottoms]

I would have left if she kept making comments.

[Anonymous 4]

Quoting Anonymous 2: Gee. I wonder why dd didn't want to come to Thanksgiving. You two sound psycho.

[JoGibson]

Is it her fault of you don't show up to places?

[Anonymous 5]

How is op a psycho? She has a grown daughter who she refuses to guilt into coming to a family event. The horror that an adult would have their own life and have their own parents support them.

Quoting Anonymous 2: Gee. I wonder why dd didn't want to come to Thanksgiving. You two sound psycho.

[jkleinman]

Just curious, how does OP sound psycho? Only grandma sounds psycho to me with her demands, and such. What did OP do?

Quoting Anonymous 2: Gee. I wonder why dd didn't want to come to Thanksgiving. You two sound psycho.

[momto2boys973]

My mom simply has to ask me and I would go if it’s important to her. Being an adult not only means to be independent, it also means knowing when you have a responsibility towards others, especially your family. It would’ve never occurred to me not going to my grandma’s house for a holiday. Thankfully, because now that both are gone I’d give anything for one more Passover Seder. And that was taught to me by my parents, who they themselves honored and respected their parents.

[LAXmom21]

Why is OP Psycho? Her daughter is grown and makes her own decisions.

Quoting Anonymous 2: Gee. I wonder why dd didn't want to come to Thanksgiving. You two sound psycho.