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Think my assistant complained to boss about me!

Anonymous
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My assistant and I had a difference of opinion about a decision, and next thing my boss is telling me he disagrees w my decision and wants me to change it. Wtf?

I really think she said something and I'm pissed! Would you confront her or just act like I changed my mind. How would you handle it? We had a good working relationship, but now I don't trust her.
Posted by Anonymous on Dec. 6, 2017 at 3:15 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Dec. 6, 2017 at 3:16 PM
I would fire her.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Dec. 6, 2017 at 3:17 PM
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Work as directed.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Dec. 6, 2017 at 3:19 PM
I don't have the power to do that, and I'm not 100%?sure that she complained about me.

Quoting Anonymous 2: I would fire her.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Dec. 6, 2017 at 3:20 PM
Do as he asked and not discuss it with her?

Quoting Anonymous 3: Work as directed.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Dec. 6, 2017 at 3:22 PM
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Apparently your boss thought she was correct, so ya gotta get over it.  She was right, you were wrong.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Dec. 6, 2017 at 3:22 PM
Yes.

Working as directed has saved me from a crap ton of misery with coworkers.

Quoting Anonymous 1: Do as he asked and not discuss it with her?

Quoting Anonymous 3: Work as directed.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Dec. 6, 2017 at 3:22 PM
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I’d just quietly do as you’re told but from this point on I would never turn my back on her again. Since you can’t fire her you’re going to have to protect yourself at all times around her. She likes to play dirty.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Dec. 6, 2017 at 3:23 PM
Yes

Quoting Anonymous 1: Do as he asked and not discuss it with her?

Quoting Anonymous 3: Work as directed.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Dec. 6, 2017 at 3:23 PM
They've known each other longer and have a closer relationship.

Quoting Anonymous 4:

Apparently your boss thought she was correct, so ya gotta get over it.  She was right, you were wrong.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Dec. 6, 2017 at 3:24 PM
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I would just nonchalantly mention that the boss asked you to do whatever this was differently so that she is aware.  It sounds like she felt strongly about the issue and wanted a third party to make an executive decision.  Next time you disagree on something, pull him in first to make the decision so that the two of you are actually working as a team and she feels that she is being heard. 

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