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Black ladies- can I ask you something

Anonymous
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I’m sorry if this sounds horribly racist, but I honestly am ignorant about something
Id like to ask

Why do some black women not want their hair to be touched [by their SO during sex]

I’ve heard this from a few black women, that they don’t like their hair messed with during sex, or in general touched by their SO. A coworker said do the other day, I asked why and she got annoyed and told me “it’s a black thing”. I felt stupid, so I dropped it, but really, WHY is it a thing?

It is some kind of sign of disrespect, is there a history here that I just don’t know about?

I really don’t mean to offend anyone asking, I’m just curious

ETA: NO I don’t mean random strangers, of course I get that,
I tried to specify that I was talking about during sex- this only applies to hair being touched DURING SEX

Posted by Anonymous on Dec. 6, 2017 at 8:11 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Dec. 6, 2017 at 8:12 PM
It’s racist
Manic_Sinner
by 5/27/2018🤰🏽 on Dec. 6, 2017 at 8:13 PM
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Why would we want our hair touched- or any part of us- especially by a stranger. I don’t go around asking to touch people that I don’t know. Anyway, I love when my husband massages my head and he loves doing it. He thinks it’s sexy. I don’t mind him or the kids touching it. Plus, some keep their hair done and don’t want it messed up.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Dec. 6, 2017 at 8:14 PM
A lot of maintance goes into their hair. Many of them spend a lot of money on weaves and hair extensions and they do not want them messed up.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Dec. 6, 2017 at 8:15 PM
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You don't have to be black to not want your hair to be touched.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Dec. 6, 2017 at 8:16 PM
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Danesmommy1
by Grammar Enthusiast on Dec. 6, 2017 at 8:17 PM
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I think it's the level of care and maintenance that goes into AA hair. If it takes a lot of time and effort to make your hair look nice you don't want someone mucking it up by touching it.

That and it's just rude to randomly touch a person's hair without permission.

Signed, a white lady who could be completely wrong about this.
SlightlyPerfect
by Ruby Member on Dec. 6, 2017 at 8:19 PM
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Jesus Christ. Do you want people to touch random parts of your body and be like "OMG How foreign!"????????
rockymtngirl
by Ruby Member on Dec. 6, 2017 at 8:21 PM
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Explain how it's racist.

Quoting Anonymous 2: It’s racist
Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Dec. 6, 2017 at 8:22 PM
I'm not really sure. I'm white and work in a mainly black daycare. I have really long hair and the girls LOVE it. Once in awhile I will just give them my brush and sit on the floor and let them go to town. Idk how many times I hear "my mommy won't let me play with her hair "
Manic_Sinner
by 5/27/2018🤰🏽 on Dec. 6, 2017 at 8:23 PM
I’m pretty sure that’s someone being a sarcastic ass.

Quoting rockymtngirl: Explain how it's racist.

Quoting Anonymous 2: It’s racist
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