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He left her and I've been disowned.

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For those not wanting to read here are cliff notes. I've been having an affair with my sister's husband.

The update is he left her and filed for divorce last Friday. Between Sunday and today my phone has blown up so much that I had to block their numbers. My parents disowned me and told me they never want to see me again. They said they would file grandparents rights for my children, even though in our state it's a longshot 😞 My sister has called me every name in the book and threatened me.

What they don't know is I am moving out of state on January 29th for a promotion through my work. I am moving back to the town I lived in for 10 years and raised my children at. If the situation becomes unbearable I can move sooner and stay with a friend until the apartment is ready.

As soon as things get settled, my boyfriend will join me and we will begin our lives together.
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 2, 2018 at 1:20 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 2, 2018 at 1:27 PM
They have never been there for me. I've always been second to my sister. Never once have my parents ever really been there for me like my boyfriend has. I'm slowly coming to realize they do not like me much at all. Which is fine, as I can take care of myself and have enough love to spread for me and my children.

Quoting Anonymous 3: I'm not going to bash you. I k ow that sometimes love is worth whatever you have to do to get there. Your parents won't be the ones laying beside you every night and living their lives with you ever day. They aren't the ones who will be there with you through thick and thin or holding your hands when you pass away.
Littlebunnyfufu
by Platinum Member on Jan. 2, 2018 at 1:28 PM
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Betrayal never “just happens” you made choices, you decided your feelings were more important than your integrity or loyalty... it’s ypur right to do it but it DOES mean that the consequences you are reaping are of your own making and to MANY it does mean you are a disgusting person.

You both seem to think your love for each other matters more than any love you may have claimed to have for your sister.

Quoting Anonymous 1: I hate that saying. First off I didn't go searching for this. It just happened. It doesn't make me or the love we have for each other disgusting.

Quoting Anonymous 2: I'll tell you what I said in your other post. How you got him is how you're going to lose him.

You're disgusting.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jan. 2, 2018 at 1:29 PM
In your case I would make the same decision. Sometimes, love happens with someone it technically "shouldnt". But it's so worth it when it does, I'd never walk away from that.

Quoting Anonymous 1: They have never been there for me. I've always been second to my sister. Never once have my parents ever really been there for me like my boyfriend has. I'm slowly coming to realize they do not like me much at all. Which is fine, as I can take care of myself and have enough love to spread for me and my children.

Quoting Anonymous 3: I'm not going to bash you. I k ow that sometimes love is worth whatever you have to do to get there. Your parents won't be the ones laying beside you every night and living their lives with you ever day. They aren't the ones who will be there with you through thick and thin or holding your hands when you pass away.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Jan. 2, 2018 at 1:30 PM
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Yes, you're disgusting. All the dick in the world, and you are whoring around with your sisters dh; incestuous filth.

Quoting Anonymous 1: I hate that saying. First off I didn't go searching for this. It just happened. It doesn't make me or the love we have for each other disgusting.

Quoting Anonymous 2: I'll tell you what I said in your other post. How you got him is how you're going to lose him.

You're disgusting.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 2, 2018 at 1:30 PM
Honestly, not very much. At first I did, until my boyfriend put it in a perspective I hadn't thought of. If the situation was reversed they wouldn't disown my sister. They would tell me to deal with it and get over it. If it was my sister having an affair with my husband they would side with my sister.

They don't like me. And I'm ok with that now. I don't need their love or approval anymore.

Quoting tiafez:

how do you feel about the people you chose to hurt?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Jan. 2, 2018 at 1:30 PM
I mean.... of all the men in the world. Lol

Did you expect anything different to happen.

I'm confused on why you would even post this.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Jan. 2, 2018 at 1:30 PM
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And cheating at some point in your life doesn’t mean that you have no other choice but to cheat forever, that’s not how life works lol. I cheated on a boy I dated in high school, at no point in time have I ever cheated on my dh. People do stupid shit, it’s only when you learn and grow from it that you become a better person. You aren’t both doomed to failure.

Learn, grow, do better.
MSMOUSE0519
by Silver Member on Jan. 2, 2018 at 1:31 PM
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I really dont' have any words for you except it is what is.

Sometimes loves happens in different ways. You can't help that. But I go by the old saying. Once a cheater always a cheater. Protect yourself and your kids.

I hope all works out for you in the end. Just be prepared not to have family by your side.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Jan. 2, 2018 at 1:31 PM

I hope you lose that job. I hope you lose your kids I hope you become homeless and are forced to live on the street. you deserve nothing but bad things the rest of your life. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Jan. 2, 2018 at 1:32 PM
Also, I’m not sure that people understand what incest is...
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