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Is this disrespectful?

Anonymous
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Im 19 and have a 2yr old. The father and i don't talk and he isnt involved, he's 19 too. He lives at home since he works part time and is in college full time.
It's a one level ranch type house.
I had an emergency and asked his mom to watch dd today.
Now this has been happening since dd was born.
When i come over he goes into his room and doesnt come out till i leave.
My friends think it is disrespectful.
Oh and i only have his mom to watch dd since my parents passed away when i was pregnant.
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 12, 2018 at 4:28 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 12, 2018 at 4:29 PM
He doesn't want to be a father. Nobody can force him to be one.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 12, 2018 at 4:29 PM
Yeah i get that. This isnt about the kid. He sees her once i leave

Quoting Anonymous 2: He doesn't want to be a father. Nobody can force him to be one.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 12, 2018 at 4:31 PM
You said he wasn't involved.

Quoting Anonymous 1: Yeah i get that. This isnt about the kid. He sees her once i leave

Quoting Anonymous 2: He doesn't want to be a father. Nobody can force him to be one.
ilovemykids323
by on Jan. 12, 2018 at 4:31 PM

No I dont think it's disrespectful... i'm sure he has his reasons for removing himself at that time

Dzyre1115
by Desiree` on Jan. 12, 2018 at 4:31 PM
It’s childish and immature....but he’s a boy, and he’s nineteen.
Tinse
by Crazy Bird Lady on Jan. 12, 2018 at 4:31 PM

Then he doesn't want to see you.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jan. 12, 2018 at 4:31 PM

:( I'm sorry your parents passed. 

He doesn't want to be a dad, she wants to be a grandma. It is disrespectful and he'll regret it when he's older and his daughter doesn't know him or resents him.

Find yourself a good man and for your DD sake make sure you stay on a good birth control until you're ready to have kids again, preferable after school and a career. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 12, 2018 at 4:31 PM
Yes. I think him seeing her once a month because his mom watches dd counts

Quoting Anonymous 2: You said he wasn't involved.
Quoting Anonymous 1: Yeah i get that. This isnt about the kid. He sees her once i leave
Quoting Anonymous 2: He doesn't want to be a father. Nobody can force him to be one.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Jan. 12, 2018 at 4:32 PM
So he doesn't want to deal with You or his kid? But will come out of his room eventually because he lives there? How does he interact with his chikd?
ReedusStalker
by 11-15/3-27 on Jan. 12, 2018 at 4:33 PM

Wait, I thought you said he wasn't involved?

Either way, I don't think it's disrespectful. He doesn't want to see you and he doesn't have too. Nothing wrong or disrespectful about that. 

Quoting Anonymous 1: Yeah i get that. This isnt about the kid. He sees her once i leave
Quoting Anonymous 2: He doesn't want to be a father. Nobody can force him to be one.


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