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I have 40 reasons why I hate my husband & marriage

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-_-

My list

1. Wakes me up out of my sleep every weekend at 7:30am-8am without fail. I work M-F days.

2. I always have to wait to pee in the morning because he takes forever in the bathroom.

3. I hate hearing his heavy gorilla feet plopping through the house.

4. I hate hearing his sneezes and coughs

5. I hate hearing him pee

6. He constantly crosses in front of the tv when I’m watching it.

7. I hate that he had no overtime this year. I was hoping he’d stay gone longer.

8.Breathes loudly

9. Always huffing & puffing, loud breather

10. He eats loud ugh

11. Can’t drink without making sound effects

12. He never knocks before entering a bathroom.

13. He never left early this holiday season for work. Biggest disappointment ever

14. Comes in the kitchen at 12am making drinks and noise

15. Bits and pieces of bar soap on the corner of my tub. I can’t wait never to see that again

16. He’s a klutz. Always knocking shit down

17. He talks too much

18. He doesn’t recognize when people are done hearing him

19. Talks to me when he sees me trying to watch tv

20. He prays everywhere. This isn’t a church.

21. It would kill him to clean off a table before my kids eat

22. He’s lazy as fuck!!! The stove is dirty, he won’t bother to clean it. The bedroom too. I sleep in the LR

23. He leaves a mess after I clean

24. Asks me where things are before actually looking for them.

25. Stands there with the fridge open like a huge idiot

26. Farts his stinkin ass up in the bedroom, doesn’t air it out. Then opens the door and lets that shit smell spread throughout the house


27. He’s plain fucking stupid. No kind of brain. Never date a man that tells you he was in special ed. There’s always a reason.

29 Always moves things I need to where I can’t find it

30. Always cooking stinky ass eggs for dinner.

31. He snores, loudly

33. He eats cereal every night

34. ***He’s homophobic & judgemental against the LBTQ community *** (I suspect my son is gay)

35. He’s a traditionalist

36. Leaves garbage bags full of garbage on the table

37. Having a husband is like having a extra child

38. Always farting up the bathroom & not opening a window

39. Always eating food I set aside for myself. Greedy as hell

40. I’m not sexually attracted to him. He’s unattractive to me
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 12, 2018 at 11:36 PM
Replies (331-340):
Anonymous
by Anonymous 61 on Jan. 14, 2018 at 10:51 PM

Maybe you put yourself in bad situations that keep you from finding happiness. Ever hear you need to be happy alone before you can be happy with someone else? And it’s  not just marriage that has to do with keeping your kids from more turmoil. You shouldn’t move in with another man either.

Be happy with what you had meant be happy with the kids you already had. You are the one that said you wanted a man so you could have more kids. Now to say you haven’t been happy in 16 years makes me wonder why you thought tethering yourself to another man and having more kids was a good idea in the first place. You had to know having kids with someone you don’t love or even like wasn’t going to end well.

Quoting Anonymous 1: I’ve NEVER been happy. In 16 entire years. When was I ever happy? Marriage sucks. I’ll never attach myself legally to another person again EVER
Quoting Anonymous 61:

So instead you married a bad choice and are going to create another major life change for your kids because you are selfish. You should have just focused on your kids and been happy with what you had. I hope you stay single and donâ��t move in or marry another man until your kids are grown. 

Quoting Anonymous 1: I was a single mom and married to have more kids. I couldn�t bear the shame of another baby daddy so I got married
Quoting cali_gurl:

You got pregnant and you married him because of that?

Quoting Anonymous 1: Kids
Quoting cali_gurl:

So why did you marry him? Did his personality use to be better? Did he use to talk less?

Quoting Anonymous 1: He�s horrible to live with. I hate living with him. He has the personality of a rock He talks too much
Quoting Anonymous 2: What are they? Or at least the most important of the 40.





Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 14, 2018 at 10:53 PM
I’ve explained that I know myself 16 years later. I was never meant to be married. I was happier single. My husband is the only person I lived with AFTER marriage. What do you think will change that? Shacking up is the same as marriage without the papers. No thanks

Quoting Anonymous 61:

Maybe you put yourself in bad situations that keep you from finding happiness. Ever hear you need to be happy alone before you can be happy with someone else? And it�s  not just marriage that has to do with keeping your kids from more turmoil. You shouldn�t move in with another man either.

Be happy with what you had meant be happy with the kids you already had. You are the one that said you wanted a man so you could have more kids. Now to say you haven�t been happy in 16 years makes me wonder why you thought tethering yourself to another man and having more kids was a good idea in the first place. You had to know having kids with someone you don�t love or even like wasn�t going to end well.

Quoting Anonymous 1: I�ve NEVER been happy. In 16 entire years. When was I ever happy? Marriage sucks. I�ll never attach myself legally to another person again EVER





Quoting Anonymous 61:

So instead you married a bad choice and are going to create another major life change for your kids because you are selfish. You should have just focused on your kids and been happy with what you had. I hope you stay single and donÃ�¢ï¿½ï¿½t move in or marry another man until your kids are grown. 

Quoting Anonymous 1: I was a single mom and married to have more kids. I couldn�¢ï¿½ï¿½t bear the shame of another baby daddy so I got married





Quoting cali_gurl:

You got pregnant and you married him because of that?

Quoting Anonymous 1: Kids





Quoting cali_gurl:

So why did you marry him? Did his personality use to be better? Did he use to talk less?

Quoting Anonymous 1: He���¢�¯�¿�½�¯�¿�½s horrible to live with. I hate living with him.





He has the personality of a rock





He talks too much





Quoting Anonymous 2: What are they? Or at least the most important of the 40.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 53 on Jan. 14, 2018 at 11:51 PM
That sucks! I’m sorry.

Quoting Anonymous 1:

I hate him. I don't care what he thinks.

Quoting Anonymous 53: I bet his list for you is twice as long lol.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 62 on Jan. 15, 2018 at 3:34 AM
Yeah that's you. She doesn't have to do shit just because she's the woman. I don't work outside the home and both my husband and I cook because I hate cooking.

Quoting Anonymous 3: Why not? I cook for my DH and the kids

Quoting bluebunnybabe: Why is she supposed to be cooking? Lol

Quoting Anonymous 3: And why is he cooking when you are supposed to be and you call HIM lazy?

Quoting Anonymous 3: Then why in the hell are you still married to him? And why can't you overlook some of these petty things?

Quoting Anonymous 1: -_-

My list

1. Wakes me up out of my sleep every weekend at 7:30am-8am without fail. I work M-F days.

2. I always have to wait to pee in the morning because he takes forever in the bathroom.

3. I hate hearing his heavy gorilla feet plopping through the house.

4. I hate hearing his sneezes and coughs

5. I hate hearing him pee

6. He constantly crosses in front of the tv when I�m watching it.

7. I hate that he had no overtime this year. I was hoping he�d stay gone longer.

8.Breathes loudly

9. Always huffing & puffing, loud breather

10. He eats loud ugh

11. Can�t drink without making sound effects

12. He never knocks before entering a bathroom.

13. He never left early this holiday season for work. Biggest disappointment ever

14. Comes in the kitchen at 12am making drinks and noise

15. Bits and pieces of bar soap on the corner of my tub. I can�t wait never to see that again

16. He�s a klutz. Always knocking shit down

17. He talks too much

18. He doesn�t recognize when people are done hearing him

19. Talks to me when he sees me trying to watch tv

20. He prays everywhere. This isn�t a church.

21. It would kill him to clean off a table before my kids eat

22. He�s lazy as fuck!!! The stove is dirty, he won�t bother to clean it. The bedroom too. I sleep in the LR

23. He leaves a mess after I clean

24. Asks me where things are before actually looking for them.

25. Stands there with the fridge open like a huge idiot

26. Farts his stinkin ass up in the bedroom, doesn�t air it out. Then opens the door and lets that shit smell spread throughout the house


27. He�s plain fucking stupid. No kind of brain. Never date a man that tells you he was in special ed. There�s always a reason.

29 Always moves things I need to where I can�t find it

30. Always cooking stinky ass eggs for dinner.

31. He snores, loudly

33. He eats cereal every night

34. ***He�s homophobic & judgemental against the LBTQ community *** (I suspect my son is gay)

35. He�s a traditionalist

36. Leaves garbage bags full of garbage on the table

37. Having a husband is like having a extra child

38. Always farting up the bedroom & not opening a window

39. Always eating food I set aside for myself. Greedy as hell

40. I�m not sexually attracted to him. He�s I�m unattractive to me

41. He�s stupid & lacks common sense.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 62 on Jan. 15, 2018 at 3:58 AM
Do you not know that you can't force yourself to love someone. You can't choose to love. You either do love someone or you don't. It's the same with attraction. You're either attracted to someone or you're just not. You can't choose. Just like gay people are attracted to the same sex even though sometimes because of society pressure, they don't want to be attracted but can't help themselves. The point is, you can't choose. It's not a choice.

Quoting Anonymous 9: Well yea, he probably just keeps his mouth shut about everything wrong with you to keep the peace. Yes, you can love him...you choose not to. It is your right to not love him if you don't want to but why not leave and give him relief from you?

Quoting Anonymous 1: No it isn’t. Love is an emotion. I can’t force myself to love someone. I tried. 10 yrs, still dead to him emotionally

Yes he says I verbally abuse him, which is he’s stop being annoying I’d stop talking out loud

Quoting Anonymous 9: Love is a choice. Do you tell him everyday how annoyed you are by him?
Quoting Anonymous 1: Well he loves me. I took his virginity if that has something to do with it. He begs me to stay daily. So if he�s annoyed with me, he keeps it to himself. No I�m not perfect, but since he loves me he doesn�t care. I don�t love him so I can�t see past it at all
Quoting Anonymous 9: I would be curious to see his list about you. And some of those are the same thing.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 9 on Jan. 15, 2018 at 7:47 AM
You absolutely do choose who you love. I don't fall in love with every person I am attracted to. If I couldn't help it and love was directly attached to attraction, then I would.

Quoting Anonymous 62: Do you not know that you can't force yourself to love someone. You can't choose to love. You either do love someone or you don't. It's the same with attraction. You're either attracted to someone or you're just not. You can't choose. Just like gay people are attracted to the same sex even though sometimes because of society pressure, they don't want to be attracted but can't help themselves. The point is, you can't choose. It's not a choice.

Quoting Anonymous 9: Well yea, he probably just keeps his mouth shut about everything wrong with you to keep the peace. Yes, you can love him...you choose not to. It is your right to not love him if you don't want to but why not leave and give him relief from you?

Quoting Anonymous 1: No it isn’t. Love is an emotion. I can’t force myself to love someone. I tried. 10 yrs, still dead to him emotionally

Yes he says I verbally abuse him, which is he’s stop being annoying I’d stop talking out loud

Quoting Anonymous 9: Love is a choice. Do you tell him everyday how annoyed you are by him?
Quoting Anonymous 1: Well he loves me. I took his virginity if that has something to do with it. He begs me to stay daily. So if he�s annoyed with me, he keeps it to himself. No I�m not perfect, but since he loves me he doesn�t care. I don�t love him so I can�t see past it at all
Quoting Anonymous 9: I would be curious to see his list about you. And some of those are the same thing.
livric
by Ruby Member on Jan. 15, 2018 at 7:52 AM

umm wow that is quite a list..  can I ask why you are still married to him??

Anonymous
by Anonymous 62 on Jan. 15, 2018 at 3:45 PM
No, you can't choose. You're confusing it with making a choice to be around a certain person and allowing yourself to be in a position to fall in love with someone. You are NOT able to choose who you love. It just happens. I don't care how much you want to or not want to love someone.....you can't force love. You either do or you dont... end of discussion.

Quoting Anonymous 9: You absolutely do choose who you love. I don't fall in love with every person I am attracted to. If I couldn't help it and love was directly attached to attraction, then I would.

Quoting Anonymous 62: Do you not know that you can't force yourself to love someone. You can't choose to love. You either do love someone or you don't. It's the same with attraction. You're either attracted to someone or you're just not. You can't choose. Just like gay people are attracted to the same sex even though sometimes because of society pressure, they don't want to be attracted but can't help themselves. The point is, you can't choose. It's not a choice.

Quoting Anonymous 9: Well yea, he probably just keeps his mouth shut about everything wrong with you to keep the peace. Yes, you can love him...you choose not to. It is your right to not love him if you don't want to but why not leave and give him relief from you?

Quoting Anonymous 1: No it isn’t. Love is an emotion. I can’t force myself to love someone. I tried. 10 yrs, still dead to him emotionally

Yes he says I verbally abuse him, which is he’s stop being annoying I’d stop talking out loud

Quoting Anonymous 9: Love is a choice. Do you tell him everyday how annoyed you are by him?
Quoting Anonymous 1: Well he loves me. I took his virginity if that has something to do with it. He begs me to stay daily. So if he�s annoyed with me, he keeps it to himself. No I�m not perfect, but since he loves me he doesn�t care. I don�t love him so I can�t see past it at all
Quoting Anonymous 9: I would be curious to see his list about you. And some of those are the same thing.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 15, 2018 at 4:11 PM
👍🏽

Quoting Anonymous 62: No, you can't choose. You're confusing it with making a choice to be around a certain person and allowing yourself to be in a position to fall in love with someone. You are NOT able to choose who you love. It just happens. I don't care how much you want to or not want to love someone.....you can't force love. You either do or you dont... end of discussion.

Quoting Anonymous 9: You absolutely do choose who you love. I don't fall in love with every person I am attracted to. If I couldn't help it and love was directly attached to attraction, then I would.

Quoting Anonymous 62: Do you not know that you can't force yourself to love someone. You can't choose to love. You either do love someone or you don't. It's the same with attraction. You're either attracted to someone or you're just not. You can't choose. Just like gay people are attracted to the same sex even though sometimes because of society pressure, they don't want to be attracted but can't help themselves. The point is, you can't choose. It's not a choice.

Quoting Anonymous 9: Well yea, he probably just keeps his mouth shut about everything wrong with you to keep the peace. Yes, you can love him...you choose not to. It is your right to not love him if you don't want to but why not leave and give him relief from you?

Quoting Anonymous 1: No it isn’t. Love is an emotion. I can’t force myself to love someone. I tried. 10 yrs, still dead to him emotionally

Yes he says I verbally abuse him, which is he’s stop being annoying I’d stop talking out loud

Quoting Anonymous 9: Love is a choice. Do you tell him everyday how annoyed you are by him?
Quoting Anonymous 1: Well he loves me. I took his virginity if that has something to do with it. He begs me to stay daily. So if he�s annoyed with me, he keeps it to himself. No I�m not perfect, but since he loves me he doesn�t care. I don�t love him so I can�t see past it at all
Quoting Anonymous 9: I would be curious to see his list about you. And some of those are the same thing.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 9 on Jan. 15, 2018 at 5:16 PM
It isn't forced if you choose it.I think you are confusing forcing and choosing. I choose to love my husband every single day even when he isn't being very lovable. I choose to invest in him. I choose to stay and work through issues. Love is an action not just a feeling and it is a choice...a conscious one. End of discussion.

Quoting Anonymous 62: No, you can't choose. You're confusing it with making a choice to be around a certain person and allowing yourself to be in a position to fall in love with someone. You are NOT able to choose who you love. It just happens. I don't care how much you want to or not want to love someone.....you can't force love. You either do or you dont... end of discussion.

Quoting Anonymous 9: You absolutely do choose who you love. I don't fall in love with every person I am attracted to. If I couldn't help it and love was directly attached to attraction, then I would.

Quoting Anonymous 62: Do you not know that you can't force yourself to love someone. You can't choose to love. You either do love someone or you don't. It's the same with attraction. You're either attracted to someone or you're just not. You can't choose. Just like gay people are attracted to the same sex even though sometimes because of society pressure, they don't want to be attracted but can't help themselves. The point is, you can't choose. It's not a choice.

Quoting Anonymous 9: Well yea, he probably just keeps his mouth shut about everything wrong with you to keep the peace. Yes, you can love him...you choose not to. It is your right to not love him if you don't want to but why not leave and give him relief from you?

Quoting Anonymous 1: No it isn’t. Love is an emotion. I can’t force myself to love someone. I tried. 10 yrs, still dead to him emotionally

Yes he says I verbally abuse him, which is he’s stop being annoying I’d stop talking out loud

Quoting Anonymous 9: Love is a choice. Do you tell him everyday how annoyed you are by him?
Quoting Anonymous 1: Well he loves me. I took his virginity if that has something to do with it. He begs me to stay daily. So if he�s annoyed with me, he keeps it to himself. No I�m not perfect, but since he loves me he doesn�t care. I don�t love him so I can�t see past it at all
Quoting Anonymous 9: I would be curious to see his list about you. And some of those are the same thing.
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