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My Dh wants me to give up everything I own to prove my love to him.

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My Dh has two daughters who he doesn't have custody of and they live across the country.

I have one daughter that I do have custody of. 

We moved across the country away from his daughters, a move that I paid for with my money, because he wanted to live in a weed legal state. 

Anyway, he had a job when we got here, quit it, I got a job bartending while he grew marijuana plants but it wasn't paying the bills (our rent is over 1200 for a 2bd) so I insisted he get a real job and he did as a car salesmen but he lost it after day 3 for not going in. We had a big fight and he left and took his car and drove to his moms in mississipi. All of this happened mid november. 

He left me with rent and all the bills and I had no Christmas money. 

Anyway it's January now and we've been talking and he wants to come back and stay in our apartment but not BE together mostly because I don't want to but I need the help paying bills, I'm drowning and I can't afford everything. 

Dh said that when he gets back he wants me to clean out my Dd's room and move her into my room so that he can have it then he said that in order to prove to him that I really want to try and make this work that he wants me to sell my couch and tv (that I dont even have paid off) and basically all my stuff because he thinks I need to downsize.

I said yes to the bedroom but I said no to selling my stuff and he said that he didnt really want me to sell my stuff he just wanted to see if I would as proof to him of what it is I don't know. 

So basically he wants me to prove myself to him, he still wants me to sell my stuff, he wants me to give up my daughters room so he can have it, but he doesnt want to be together. 

I want to leave him and get a house just for my daughter and I for less money and leave him with the expensive apartment.

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 13, 2018 at 3:37 PM
Replies (181-189):
carterscutie85
by Queen Bee on Jan. 18, 2018 at 9:05 AM

Lol this man is trying to make you his bitch and you are considering it. How pathetic.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 12 on Jan. 18, 2018 at 9:10 AM

Any update, OP

donnag013
by Platinum Member on Jan. 18, 2018 at 9:13 AM

Get a roommate if you can't get out of the lease. You DO NOT need this loser, nor should you sell your stuff.

Mireya9
by Silver Member on Jan. 25, 2018 at 1:43 AM
Girl get a roommate! He already proved to be a loser
Marie207
by on Jan. 25, 2018 at 1:51 AM

Your very last sentence would be Golden if you just replace the word want with going and add an "m" to the I.  There you go, and never look back.  Dam lazy man could get you guys killed.  Just because it is now legal to grow weed don't mean the street crew you deal with during distrbution, won't take him out. 

Umi12
by Bronze Member on Jan. 25, 2018 at 1:58 AM
Yes leave him.

Quoting mollyk124: Leave him
Anonymous
by Anonymous 74 on Jan. 25, 2018 at 2:15 AM

don't take him back for even a second that will just prove you are weak. 

kika.fleur
by Gold Member on Jan. 25, 2018 at 2:20 AM

He's the one who needs to prove himself, not you. You'd be better off getting a smaller, cheaper apartment or a reliable flatmate who will pay her/his portion of the rent and other expenses. Your husband isn't reliable and can't be trusted.

You don't need a second child. Your daughter doesn't need to have that kind of male role model in her life.

Robin-Christine
by Platinum Member on Jan. 25, 2018 at 3:00 AM
He left his daughters for weed.
He left you after you asked him to man up and get a job.
You paid for the move.
You are paying for home,...now
See the pattern,run.
How many times has he saw his kids? He is putting weed as number one in his life, let him have it and move forward.
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