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My monster in law is crazy

Anonymous
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My monster in law who has never met my children (different state) has pissed me off tonight. 

She was controlling of my husbands finances when we weren't together. She was/is power hungry, munupulitive & money hungry.

Well, DH moved across the country to live with me before we got married. She has said things here and there to try to control him. Didn't work..at all. Well, tonight he was on the phone with her telling her how it is our youngests sons birthday soon. He's not their real father but he's their step father and he loves them. Well, she flew off the handle! "Christmas just came. Just get him a book. I don't see why you're spending money on a gift." Then he goes, "Well, it's his special day and he deserves a gift or two." and she goes, "You have a condescending tone with me! Why did you call me?!"

WTF!? Over a gift? She didn't complain when it was HER birthday 2 months before Christmas and she was hinting at gifts.

Will I spoil my kid on his birthday? Damn right. She has NO say,...none.

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 14, 2018 at 9:43 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 14, 2018 at 9:45 PM
She sounds lovely. My ds's birthday is this month too and you bet your ass he's getting spoiled rotten.
K3412
by Ruby Member on Jan. 14, 2018 at 9:48 PM
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Why does he keep involving her in his life?
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 14, 2018 at 9:48 PM

Right?! This is their day!

Quoting Anonymous 2: She sounds lovely. My ds's birthday is this month too and you bet your ass he's getting spoiled rotten.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 14, 2018 at 9:48 PM

He is a huge mamas boy. She raised him to take care of her, to tell her eveyrhting, and to make sure she's number 1. 

Quoting K3412: Why does he keep involving her in his life?


Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jan. 14, 2018 at 9:50 PM
Well I imagine you knew that going into the marriage. He’s not going to change. I guess you better figure out if you want to live with it or not. I personally couldn’t.

Quoting Anonymous 1:

He is a huge mamas boy. She raised him to take care of her, to tell her eveyrhting, and to make sure she's number 1. 

Quoting K3412: Why does he keep involving her in his life?

stepperbepper
by Gold Member on Jan. 14, 2018 at 9:56 PM
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My kids birthday is Jan 7th... we just spent about $200 on his party and $115 on his present 🤷🏼‍♀️ Your MIL would hate me
rebal
by Gold Member on Jan. 14, 2018 at 10:05 PM
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When I married my husband eleven years ago his mother was on his bank account. I thought he had put her on it for his first deployment in case he had a bill that needed paid or something but nope, she had just always been on it. I found out right after we got married and immediately made him take her off the account. They both had to sign papers with the bank to have her removed and she was pissed! Keep in mind we were 27 when we got married so it was way beyond time. Imagine my surprise a few years later when in the process of buying our first house we find out the other party on the account had to give permission for us the write the big check. Yeah....she never turned the paper into the bank. It was not a pretty fight we had but I made sure she signed and notarized the paperwork. He was at Fort Hood and his mom and I both lived in Austin so he came back frequently. Before we married he had his mail sent to her house instead of the barracks and he would grab it on the weekends. We were at her house and I will never forget this happened. As soon as we walked in she had his open bank statement in her hand and started yelling at him because he spent money going to bars. I was in shock because we were adults and my parents never did anything like that.
Talkingheads
by Emerald Member on Jan. 14, 2018 at 10:10 PM
My son turned 10 on the eighth. He got a new laptop
Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Jan. 14, 2018 at 10:11 PM
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I’m on both my sons’ bank accounts. Primarily In case of emergency. Ods graduated college so he pays his own bills. I don’t manage his money, he does.
Yds is still in college. Dh and I still help him with finances—-
But I’d had NO problem taking my name off their accounts for them to add their wives. OMG-it’s the circle of life for crying out loud...

Quoting rebal: When I married my husband eleven years ago his mother was on his bank account. I thought he had put her on it for his first deployment in case he had a bill that needed paid or something but nope, she had just always been on it. I found out right after we got married and immediately made him take her off the account. They both had to sign papers with the bank to have her removed and she was pissed! Keep in mind we were 27 when we got married so it was way beyond time. Imagine my surprise a few years later when in the process of buying our first house we find out the other party on the account had to give permission for us the write the big check. Yeah....she never turned the paper into the bank. It was not a pretty fight we had but I made sure she signed and notarized the paperwork. He was at Fort Hood and his mom and I both lived in Austin so he came back frequently. Before we married he had his mail sent to her house instead of the barracks and he would grab it on the weekends. We were at her house and I will never forget this happened. As soon as we walked in she had his open bank statement in her hand and started yelling at him because he spent money going to bars. I was in shock because we were adults and my parents never did anything like that.
rebal
by Gold Member on Jan. 15, 2018 at 12:05 AM
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You are going to be a great MIL. My MIL and I get along for the most part, but it took years. She is very passive agressive and all of her family has always just put up with it because "that's just how she is." For example she refuses to come to our house at Christmas because my parents are here as well. We have a 5 bedroom house that can accomidate everyone with everyone having their own space, but she chooses to spend Christmas day alone. I invite her every single year to come watch the kids open presents and have Christmas dinner. She decided she was going to come the day after Christmas kind of last minute so I stayed up until 2am cleaning and getting everything ready. We had guests leaving and one coming, not to mention our 5 and 6 year old kids tend to make and epic disaster between wrapping paper, new toys, etc. Since I had been up so late getting the house ready my husband decided to not even wake me up the next morning and he got up with the kids so I could sleep in. I was still in pajamas when she showed up that morning. She looked at me and said " you are such a wonderful mother....and how lucky that you've trained your kids not to bother you at all so you can sleep all day long!" Yeah, it was like 9am. I told her that wasn't true and she knew it and it would be nice if she could at least let me get a cup of coffee down before she started to insult me. Later that night she comes up to me and apologizes and hands me a $100 bill and tells me to go so something fun for myself. She mentions running to the casino for a few hours because she knows I enjoy going occasionally. I tell her thank you, give her a hug and tell her it's not nessesary. She told me that I work hard as a mom and deserve a break...super nice, right? As I grab my purse she said "of course good moms don't go out while their children are at home, but you have fun." She literally apologized, complimented me, gave me a gift telling me to take some time for myself and then called me a bad mom for accepting it. Yes, I have prescription xanex for her visits.

Quoting Anonymous 4: I’m on both my sons’ bank accounts. Primarily In case of emergency. Ods graduated college so he pays his own bills. I don’t manage his money, he does.
Yds is still in college. Dh and I still help him with finances—-
But I’d had NO problem taking my name off their accounts for them to add their wives. OMG-it’s the circle of life for crying out loud...

Quoting rebal: When I married my husband eleven years ago his mother was on his bank account. I thought he had put her on it for his first deployment in case he had a bill that needed paid or something but nope, she had just always been on it. I found out right after we got married and immediately made him take her off the account. They both had to sign papers with the bank to have her removed and she was pissed! Keep in mind we were 27 when we got married so it was way beyond time. Imagine my surprise a few years later when in the process of buying our first house we find out the other party on the account had to give permission for us the write the big check. Yeah....she never turned the paper into the bank. It was not a pretty fight we had but I made sure she signed and notarized the paperwork. He was at Fort Hood and his mom and I both lived in Austin so he came back frequently. Before we married he had his mail sent to her house instead of the barracks and he would grab it on the weekends. We were at her house and I will never forget this happened. As soon as we walked in she had his open bank statement in her hand and started yelling at him because he spent money going to bars. I was in shock because we were adults and my parents never did anything like that.
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