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She planned her wedding for the week before my due date and is mad that none of us are coming

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I'm do with mine and my husband's third child on May 19th. My sister-in-law just sent us an invitation to her wedding on May 19th in California. We live in Florida. This means that I will either be 39 weeks pregnant or having newborn. My first two children were born at 38 weeks and 6 days and 39 weeks and 2 days. So odds are I will go into labor on the weekend of her wedding. My husband called her and said that sorry we won't be able to make the wedding because I'm going to be too far along at the time. She got upset and said that it's completely unfair of him to miss her wedding and she's his only sister and try to lay a guilt trip on him. He told her that if she wanted him at her wedding so badly she should not have scheduled it for the week before his wife was due. She said that he should just come on his own. He told her that he would not be doing that because there's a good chance that I will go into labor while he is fairly good chance that I will go into labor that weekend or close to it. He said he's not going to risk missing the birth or buy a plane ticket only for me to deliver right before the wedding and then he either has to cancel the flight losing money or leave his wife home with two young kids and a newborn. She kept going on about how it shouldn't be a big deal I'm a mother why can't I do it by myself. He said it's not the fact that I can't if I shouldn't have to. There's no reason for him to go. It would be one thing if it was a mandatory thing for work but it's not.

Now she's going around the whole family bad-mouthing me saying that my husband was pussy whipped and that I'm selfish and should tell him that he can go. I've never told him he can't go. Would I be upset if he went? Probably a little bit. But he made the decision on his own before he even spoke with me about it. The funny thing is just about everybody she spoken to who has kids is taking my side. It's only the single people who don't get it. I even had my husband's cousin who is a single guy call and say he doesn't get the big deal. It's our third kid it's not like it's our first or something. I told him if that's how he feels he shouldn't have any more than one children. If you are not as excited for your third as you were with your first you shouldn't be having your third
Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 9, 2018 at 9:57 AM
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haydsmom2007
by Platinum Member on Feb. 9, 2018 at 11:35 AM
People take weddings way too seriously.

Quoting Anonymous 25: I don't know if this is made up or not but people do behave this way. My fiance didn't attend his sister's wedding 2 years ago because I had emergency surgery after a car accident and he wasn't willing to leave me in the hospital alone. His sister hasn't spoken to him since.

Quoting haydsmom2007: I feel like this is made up. People don’t actually behave like that.
nmkj
by Emerald Member on Feb. 9, 2018 at 11:36 AM
This sure does happen often.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 27 on Feb. 9, 2018 at 11:42 AM
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How odd I put my wedding together in 6 weeks. 

Ummm not everyone does a large venue and band. 

Quoting Anonymous 24: I had to book my venue, band, and photographer more than a year in advance. I doubt she picked the date a few weeks ago.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 28 on Feb. 9, 2018 at 11:45 AM
Typical bridezilla. Good luck with that.
rockymtngirl
by Ruby Member on Feb. 9, 2018 at 11:47 AM
This trashy stuff is commonplace on here.
Phoenix_lament
by Fawkes on Feb. 9, 2018 at 11:52 AM
Sounds to me like this was very deliberate. Has she had problems with you in the past?

Quoting Anonymous 1: Oh yeah. She just picked the date a few weeks ago. When we got the invitation was the first time we even knew about the date. She was well aware of when my due date was. And that's fine she doesn't have to schedule her life around me but she can't really complain that her brother's not coming when she scheduled the wedding a week before his wife's due date

Quoting Anonymous 5: She scheduled it after she knew you were pregnant?
msjaxon
by Platinum Member on Feb. 9, 2018 at 11:55 AM
My wedding was scheduled in a few weeks. But I had a scaled down wedding and I know a lot of people so finding vendors on short notice wasnt hard.

Quoting Anonymous 24: I had to book my venue, band, and photographer more than a year in advance. I doubt she picked the date a few weeks ago.

Quoting Anonymous 1: Oh yeah. She just picked the date a few weeks ago. When we got the invitation was the first time we even knew about the date. She was well aware of when my due date was. And that's fine she doesn't have to schedule her life around me but she can't really complain that her brother's not coming when she scheduled the wedding a week before his wife's due date

Quoting Anonymous 5: She scheduled it after she knew you were pregnant?
momofthem311
by on Feb. 9, 2018 at 11:58 AM
Are you fucking kidding me??? What exactly about being 39 weeks pregnant and not being able to travel and her husband not wanting to miss the fucking birth of his child makes them assholes?
Do tell

Quoting Anonymous 6: You all sound like assholes.
PinkButterfly66
by Diamond Member on Feb. 9, 2018 at 12:06 PM

I don't blame your husband and his sister sounds like an entitled brat.  She really must not like you.  

mommy2boys03
by Gold Member on Feb. 9, 2018 at 12:07 PM
I have a family friend that is getting married in March in Chicago. They got engaged Christmas eve of 2017 and didn't start getting a venue until the begining og jan. It can be done but costly. He wants his brother to be his best man and his nephew to be ring bearer. Problem is the brother lives on CA and is havong a hard time getting time off for the wedding.

Quoting jules2boys:

Your timing doesn't work.  Your due date is May 19th.  Your SILs wedding is May 19th.  That's not a week apart, that's the same day.  

She's just now letting family know that the wedding is in 3 months?  Short notice, no?  Friends/acquaintances I can see not knowing for 2 - 3 months but family?  And in CA in May?  Surely it takes more time here to plan a wedding and find a venue than that (or it usually does).  

Oh, well.  Those that know (parents), know she's being ridiculous.  Those that don't (single people who are apparently some of the most clueless people around), don't matter anyway, or would no longer matter to me after this.  At least your DH isn't one of the more clueless people from that gene pool.  ;) 

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