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I'm sorry you are jealous but I'm not going to put up with your nonsense!

Anonymous
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With sil has a 4 month old baby. Her and her dh spent 9 years which included several miscarriages and a lot of expense of infertility treatments in order to have their son. They originally planned for her to be a stay-at-home mom until their child went to kindergarten. However because of how much that they had to go into for their fertility treatments and all the medical expensive she had from the pregnancy which was extremely high risk, she had to go back to work at 8 weeks post partum. I definitely understand why this is hard for her but she has been a real b**** to me lately. I think part of it is the fact that I get to be a stay-at-home mom with my five children, one of whom is a month younger than hers ( don't get me started on how pissed she was when she found out that I was also pregnant). The other part is that she asked if I would babysit her baby for free 3 days a week. She said if I could do that she would be able to avoid her $200 a week daycare cost and they could afford for her to work just 3 days a week instead of 5. I told her I couldn't do it. Like I said at that point I was about to have my fifth child and adding a 6 3 days a week two of them would be infants was just too much. And to do it for free, I just wasn't interested. So in her mind it's my fault that she has to work 5 days a week instead of 3.

She has started making nasty comments to me lately, both in person and on fb. She will post under comments and pictures of me doing fun stuff with my kids during the day with things like "must be nice to have nothing to do all day". The other day we were at my mother-in-law's house I was talking to my mother-in-law about stuff I was doing with the kids. All the sudden she blows up and says that I need to stop bragging and that I should be ashamed to myself. That I wouldn't even help her knowing that it would mean more time with her child after she spent nearly a decade trying to become a mother. She said now 5 days a week she comes home from work and only has like an hour with her baby before it's time for bed. So she doesn't want to hear about how I get to do stuff with my kids. She was yelling and calling all sorts of names. Finally I told my mother-in-law thank you for having us but we need to leave. I told my sister-in-law that I'm sorry she's clearly jealous of the life that I have but she needs to work that out on her own but I'm not going to be around her until she can get her jealousy under control.

We left. My husband hadn't even gotten there yet as he was coming straight from work. My mother-in-law called me saying that it's not fair for me to take the grandkids away that they were looking forward to spending time with them. I said I'm sorry but I'm not dealing with her nonsense. She called my husband complaining the same way he said the same thing. He said that until sister-in-law can get her jealousy under control don't expect us to be anywhere that she is. And when we host things she will not be invited
Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 9, 2018 at 10:56 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 9, 2018 at 10:57 AM
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by Anonymous 2 on Feb. 9, 2018 at 10:59 AM
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Yeah, she should not be taking it out on you but basically you're saying you won't help out 3 days a week because you've decided to be a baby machine.  Your entire attitude is off putting and you don't look any better than your SIL at this point.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Feb. 9, 2018 at 10:59 AM
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You both sound awful but I feel badly for her.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Feb. 9, 2018 at 10:59 AM
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That sucks. She'd be out of my life. I don't deal with drama or toxic people. She's both.
Platinumbaby
by Bronze Member on Feb. 9, 2018 at 11:02 AM
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Family drama sucks.

So sorry for you to have to deal with that.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Feb. 9, 2018 at 11:02 AM
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She blew all her money on fertility treatments. Her needing to work isn't your problem, and shouldn't be taken out on you. Her and her dh cannot afford their lives. You can. Ignore her.
raseco
by Bronze Member on Feb. 9, 2018 at 11:02 AM
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why the hell did you post this? it's just stupid stupid all around. you sound petty and she sounds jealous and this sounds stupid. did you just want a bunch of people patting you on the pat saying there there, you're so right? who cares?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Feb. 9, 2018 at 11:03 AM
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It wasn't the same scenario with the infertility issues/costs, but my cousin basically did the same thing to me. She wanted me to be her full time free babysitter for her two little boys, ages three and a newborn at the time. And when I say newborn, I'm talking umbilical cord stump still on. I'd just had my fourth child about two months prior and was exhausted with a colicky baby and three other children of my own. Of course she's always been like that. Her problems are always everyone else's problems.
tiafez
by Gold Member on Feb. 9, 2018 at 11:03 AM

I get why you did you but in my world, family helps family. again though, you have to do as you wish. 

Verified BM/SM/BOB .... wwnsdd?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Feb. 9, 2018 at 11:05 AM
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False.

Op has her own children to care for. She has an infant of her own. The SIL crisis isn't the Ops emergency.

Quoting Anonymous 2:

Yeah, she should not be taking it out on you but basically you're saying you won't help out 3 days a week because you've decided to be a baby machine.  Your entire attitude is off putting and you don't look any better than your SIL at this point.

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