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I will accept it if you tell me I am wrong

Anonymous
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My BFF is a single mother of teenage boys. Her youngest, 15 needed something that she couldn't afford. I ordered it and had it delivered to him.

I have not heard a thank you. At 15, wouldn't you think he would know to thank me? Wouldn't you tell your son to thank me?

DH says that because I offered, I wasn't asked, I shouldn't expect a thank you.
Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 17, 2018 at 10:23 AM
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ReedusStalker
by 11-15/3-27 on Feb. 17, 2018 at 10:23 AM
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You should get a thank you. Could they be embarrassed? 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Feb. 17, 2018 at 10:25 AM
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You ordered it and had it delivered. Maybe the parent didn't want the child to have it. No thanks to you
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 17, 2018 at 10:26 AM
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Maybe. And maybe she didn't tell him it was from me?

Quoting ReedusStalker:

You should get a thank you. Could they be embarrassed? 

Tyrneathem
by Silver Member on Feb. 17, 2018 at 10:26 AM
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You should get a thank you... it's just the decent thing to do when given a gift whether you asked for it or not. I have to agree with the poster above that maybe there is some embarrassment, but they should still suck it up and say thank you.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 17, 2018 at 10:26 AM
She did. She said she would get it if she had the money. It was a need BTW, not a want.

Quoting Anonymous 2: You ordered it and had it delivered. Maybe the parent didn't want the child to have it. No thanks to you
crowdsourcerer
by Bronze Member on Feb. 17, 2018 at 10:28 AM
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You should get a thank you. But many times kids don't, in fact this kid might be in the majority. This isn't his fault, but his mom's. I'd let it go. (My trick to get a written thankyou and a call to the giver from my kids is to put the item on a visible but high shelf and tell them they can use it when their thankyou is done.  If they don't really like the present, so don't care about access to it, I give them a week, and then shut down their phone till it's done - which happens fast! LOL)

Given this reality, give purely out of the joy of giving, and fully let this go. 

Baseballmom2004
by Member on Feb. 17, 2018 at 10:28 AM
Is it possible they didn't know it was from you? My ex's parents ordered shirts for me once and I didn't know they were from them until they called and asked if I received the shirts yet.
MistyMoo
by Emerald Member on Feb. 17, 2018 at 10:28 AM
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You should always get a thank you. Whether you offered or were asked..
quinnsmom715
by Emerald Member on Feb. 17, 2018 at 10:28 AM

this.if i tell my child no,dont interfere..

Quoting Anonymous 2: You ordered it and had it delivered. Maybe the parent didn't want the child to have it. No thanks to you


ReedusStalker
by 11-15/3-27 on Feb. 17, 2018 at 10:28 AM

Maybe she didn't.  Has she said anything to you? 

Quoting Anonymous 1: Maybe. And maybe she didn't tell him it was from me?
Quoting ReedusStalker:

You should get a thank you. Could they be embarrassed? 


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