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what is considered the beginning of stalking?

Anonymous
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posting for my sister who has been divorced about seven years but her ex has always been very controlling. Today she discovered he'd added himself to her T-Mobile phone account as an authorized user or person on the account. HE did this without contacting T-Mobile and went through two things of security she'd set up because he's done this before. T-Mobile said they had NO idea how he'd done it and that she should be aware that it was stalking. Now there are like three firewalls to get through. 

So, we aren't sure what he's looking for from her. She keeps all his nasty texts, etc., but that isn't stalking that's him being an assh*le. At what point should she get some kind of guidance on this. She was hysterical on the phone today when she called me. I suggested talking to her local police but I really have no experience at all. Any thoughts?

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 21, 2018 at 12:35 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Feb. 21, 2018 at 12:41 AM

That's actually him harassing her, not being an asshole. Besides any of that is he showing up at her home, job, etc? She can tell the police if she wants but at this point they won't do anything. It's not enough to get him arrested or anything. 

KendallsMommee
by Spoiled SAHM on Feb. 21, 2018 at 12:44 AM
How scary.

I wish her the best.
kika.fleur
by Gold Member on Feb. 21, 2018 at 12:44 AM

I would certainly go to the Police to report this, as well as show them all the nasty texts.

You or your sister can go here to ask more about what she should do:
http://www.thehotline.org/what-is-live-chat/

http://www.thehotline.org/2011/01/07/stalking-know-it-name-it-stop-it/

http://stalkingawarenessmonth.org/awareness


PinkButterfly66
by Diamond Member on Feb. 21, 2018 at 12:57 AM
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She needs to look on her phone to make sure he hasn't installed any tracking apps.  And I don't think it would be crazy to tell her take her car to her mechanic to see if there is any tracking device hidden under the car somewhere, either.  

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 21, 2018 at 5:14 PM

Thank you, this was my feeling as well.

Quoting Anonymous 2:

That's actually him harassing her, not being an asshole. Besides any of that is he showing up at her home, job, etc? She can tell the police if she wants but at this point they won't do anything. It's not enough to get him arrested or anything. 


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 21, 2018 at 5:15 PM

Thanks! I didn't think about that but both great ideas. Tracking on her car??? EEK...

Quoting PinkButterfly66:

She needs to look on her phone to make sure he hasn't installed any tracking apps.  And I don't think it would be crazy to tell her take her car to her mechanic to see if there is any tracking device hidden under the car somewhere, either.  


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 21, 2018 at 5:16 PM
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Thank you so much, I'll send these to her today!

Quoting kika.fleur:

I would certainly go to the Police to report this, as well as show them all the nasty texts.

You or your sister can go here to ask more about what she should do:http://www.thehotline.org/what-is-live-chat/

http://www.thehotline.org/2011/01/07/stalking-know-it-name-it-stop-it/

http://stalkingawarenessmonth.org/awareness



Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 21, 2018 at 5:16 PM

Thanks so much : )

Quoting KendallsMommee: How scary. I wish her the best.


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