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Has a boss ever said this to you?

Anonymous
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I had my yearly review today.

He sat me down and started going over things and he said to me “I want you to know - there were categories on here that I personally think you were, and could have marked “outstanding”, but I just don’t do that. I don’t give out “outstanding” remarks.”
At the end he asked if I had any questions, comments or concerns and I asked about that comment. I said I don’t understand why, if you think I have an “outstanding” performance, why you wouldn’t mark it as such”.
His only response was - as managers, we just don’t do that.

Wtf. I’ve been there 8 years and I’ve never gotten a merit raise. My company is based out of a different state and the other state is where my HR is. They don’t have a clue what I do. My pay is based off of his reviews.

I talked to DH about it and he said there are some managers like that. Have it in their head that there’s always room for improvement so they won’t ever tell you you’re the best, no matter how hard you work.

Such bullshit.
Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 16, 2018 at 9:48 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Mar. 16, 2018 at 9:50 PM
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No. But I think it's pretty standard.
Rinascitalady
by Silver Member on Mar. 16, 2018 at 9:53 PM
Yes, it's pretty common.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Mar. 16, 2018 at 9:54 PM
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It’s possible that his hands are tied and he’s being told to evaluate this way.

I’ve had to write people up because my boss insisted. I take the brunt of that and would never tell the employee but it sucks because it seems like it was my idea.
1kidmomajm
by Silver Member on Mar. 16, 2018 at 9:56 PM
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They dont want to pay you more so they don't have the outstandings on paper. They are either afraid you will ask for more or do the opposite and slack off maybe. It doesn't seem like there is any growth there. Depends what you want, is everything fine with you or do you want more, something better.

Pink.Sunshine
by Petty Princess on Mar. 16, 2018 at 9:56 PM
That’s a problem. I got a significant raise my first year. You should be getting way more especially if you’re doing a good job
bleumonster
by Sapphire Member on Mar. 16, 2018 at 9:56 PM
Actually my boss gives me outstanding on the stuff I’m outstanding on. She gives the best and most honest reviews of any boss I’ve had. I dread when she retires.
WickedOpal
by Ruby Member on Mar. 16, 2018 at 9:56 PM
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A ton of corporations do this to prevent people getting raises every year. It's fairly common now and since a lot of people put up with it, it continues.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Mar. 16, 2018 at 9:59 PM
Yes, I’ve had more than one who wouldn’t mark “outstanding” because there’s always room for improvement. 🙄
Valentina327
by Silver Member on Mar. 16, 2018 at 10:00 PM
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Yes I have heard that before. Incredibly frustrating and makes you not want to give a damn.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Mar. 16, 2018 at 10:01 PM
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Pretty much!

Quoting Valentina327: Yes I have heard that before. Incredibly frustrating and makes you not want to give a damn.
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