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Ménage à trois

Anonymous
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My husband and I have been together 20, and married 15 years. Last year a coworker and friend of mine and I started joking about “sharing” my husband. Last weekend our (teenaged) kids were out of town with their grandparents and she came over and the three of us got very drunk and ended up having a threesome.

It was wild, exciting, and has invigorated our sex life. (We went from having sex occasionally (think maybe 2x a month) to multiple times each day this week).

I can not stop thinking about it and she has mentioned, jokingly, that ‘next time’ we won’t be as drunk. I’m excited and ready to find an excuse for the kids to spend a weekend away again, and I know from talking with her that she’d be up for it. My husband however seems to be the hold out. He said he felt awkward and guilty about it. I have told him numerous times, that I don’t feel that it was wrong and that there’s nothing to feel guilty about.

I don’t really know if there’s a point to this post. I guess I just wanted to get it off my chest, seeing as the only people I’ve spoken to about it happening are my husband and her.
Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 18, 2018 at 2:22 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Mar. 18, 2018 at 2:27 AM
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If he’s not comfortable, that’s pretty much the end of it.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Mar. 18, 2018 at 2:28 AM
I know. It’s just kind of a bummer.

Does it make me terrible for feeling disappointed?

Quoting Anonymous 2: If he’s not comfortable, that’s pretty much the end of it.
iampavlov
by RingTheBell on Mar. 18, 2018 at 2:29 AM

You need to respect your DH's feelings and let it go

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Mar. 18, 2018 at 2:30 AM
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I don’t think you’re terrible for feeling disappointed. If you pressured him, then I’d think you’re terrible.

Quoting Anonymous 1: I know. It’s just kind of a bummer.

Does it make me terrible for feeling disappointed?

Quoting Anonymous 2: If he’s not comfortable, that’s pretty much the end of it.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Mar. 18, 2018 at 2:32 AM
Why do you need to pressure him? Have fun with your friend!
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Mar. 18, 2018 at 2:34 AM
I wouldn’t do it if my husband wasn’t involved.

I feel like that would be crossing a line.

Quoting Anonymous 3: Why do you need to pressure him? Have fun with your friend!
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Mar. 18, 2018 at 2:37 AM
Oh. To each, their own. Sex is always very emotional to me, and I need one on one with any threesome partners.

Well, hopefully your DH changes his mind eventually!

Quoting Anonymous 1: I wouldn’t do it if my husband wasn’t involved.

I feel like that would be crossing a line.

Quoting Anonymous 3: Why do you need to pressure him? Have fun with your friend!
Sassy762
by CAFE SASSY HBIC on Mar. 18, 2018 at 2:40 AM
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by Anonymous 4 on Mar. 18, 2018 at 5:04 AM
If you dont respect his feelings, it could easily tuen into resentement from him and thats never good in a healthy relationship. Id just be happy the sex life between you two is alot better. Mayve you guys just needed a litle spice to get it coming back.
corticosteroid
by on Mar. 18, 2018 at 6:59 AM

You’re happy about all this because you feel sexy and desired now.

He’s not happy about all this because he’s more turned on by her than by you.

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