Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

HE expects me to initiate sex

Anonymous
Posted by Anonymous
  • 128 Replies
And I’m tired of it. DH has a MUCHH higher sex drive than I. I can go days- weeks, without it. He says he needs it at least once a day. Which is totally fine!! I don’t mind doing it that much, as long as time and circumstances permit. However, he expects me to initiate. He wants me to be the spontaneous and wild go getter. He already knows my sex drive is not remotely as high as his. I don’t understand his thought process on this. When we don’t do it, he blames me because I didn’t do anything with him. Wtf?
If someone wants it that bad, don’t you think they’d do something about it instead of wait for someone else? He says that I don’t do it enough and that if he starts initiating then that’s all it will ever be. He says he needs me to be the one to “want” him.
I think his concept of sex is so fucking twisted. He works nights and so last night he had the night off. He got to stay home and sleep with me and I put on a really cute small night dress. I laid down next to him and fell asleep. (Unintentionally) I stayed asleep all night. Because of that, we did nothing. The next morning he blamed me and said it was another wasted night of no sex. I told him that if he wanted it that bad.. he could’ve did something about it. But nope. It’s my fault for falling asleep and not initiating. He says the only time I really want him is when I’m drunk and that I am not the girl he wishes I was. Mind you: I do give him head weekly and I DO VERY MUCH initiate sex on a weekly basis. Not daily but weekly. Am I just fucked up here or is he wrong for expecting this out of me?
I used to be “wild” and I used to be initiator but that was before kids and responsibilities. Ugh. I feel like he’s being so abusive about it. He tells me that I’m not the girl he needs me to be. He says that I’m boring and dull.
Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 20, 2018 at 6:58 PM
Add your quick reply below:
You must be a member to reply to this post.
Replies (1-10):
Talkingheads
by Emerald Member on Mar. 20, 2018 at 7:00 PM
2 moms liked this
He is expecting you to be a whore. I would get into marriage counseling
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Mar. 20, 2018 at 7:01 PM
Bump
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Mar. 20, 2018 at 7:02 PM
1 mom liked this
Exactly what he wants out of me. He wants me to be the biggest slut for him behind closed doors but a classy lady outside the bedroom.

He was addicted to porn for years! I think this has screwed with his head

Quoting Talkingheads: He is expecting you to be a whore. I would get into marriage counseling
quinnsmom715
by Ruby Member on Mar. 20, 2018 at 7:03 PM

tell him you are his wife,not a porn star..

Quoting Anonymous 1: Exactly what he wants out of me. He wants me to be the biggest slut for him behind closed doors but a classy lady outside the bedroom. He was addicted to porn for years! I think this has screwed with his head
Quoting Talkingheads: He is expecting you to be a whore. I would get into marriage counseling


12345abcde54321
by Ruby Member on Mar. 20, 2018 at 7:03 PM
7 moms liked this
Nobody wants to fuck a whiny little bitch is what I'd tell him. So cut out the tantrums or I'm not going to be turned on enough to have sex.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Mar. 20, 2018 at 7:04 PM
1 mom liked this
He sounds needy and annoying AF. Im not a fan of sex toys but I think Id buy him a rubber vagina and tell him to fuck off.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Mar. 20, 2018 at 7:05 PM
I have. He says that a wife can still be slutty like that for her man and that’s what he wants



Quoting quinnsmom715:

tell him you are his wife,not a porn star..

Quoting Anonymous 1: Exactly what he wants out of me. He wants me to be the biggest slut for him behind closed doors but a classy lady outside the bedroom.

He was addicted to porn for years! I think this has screwed with his head

Quoting Talkingheads: He is expecting you to be a whore. I would get into marriage counseling

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Mar. 20, 2018 at 7:05 PM
9 moms liked this
He wants you to initiate because he is probably getting sick of being turned down or always having to ask. He wants to feel wanted and you are failing in that department. At least he is talking to you about what he needs rather than keeping quiet and building resentment.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Mar. 20, 2018 at 7:06 PM
Ugh! So fucking true. Maybe THIS is why I can’t bring myself to fuck him on a daily. Seriously

Quoting 12345abcde54321: Nobody wants to fuck a whiny little bitch is what I'd tell him. So cut out the tantrums or I'm not going to be turned on enough to have sex.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Mar. 20, 2018 at 7:06 PM
2 moms liked this
I can see where he's coming from, but he's being rude and handling it the wrong way.
Add your quick reply below:
You must be a member to reply to this post.
Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)