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Mothers with ASD

Anonymous
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Is there any mothers on here with autism spectrum? ASD.

My son has ASD and I was diagnosed with adhd and dyslexia as a kid, but I am starting to see my son is nearly identical to me when I was a child. I’m worried to go to a neurologist or any other specials to be officially diagnosed due to the stigma that comes with it and fear my career and kids will be ripped from me due to societies bullshit ignorance.

I am a 9-1-1 dispatcher and going to school to become a nurse focusing on cardiology since I really would like to focus on pediatric heart defects but I don’t have the money to be in med school To become a cardiovascular specialist which would be my dream career . I have pulmonary atresia with PDA and right hypoplastic ventricle and have had 5 surgeries in my life time to help with my defects. It’s always interested me.


Anyone with ASD and has children let me know how life is for you. Clearly I am bright and smart, i have a successful and independent life .I just always have beeen “weird” to people even was told I could have anxiety issues because big crowds and loud unexpected noises freak me out but I see with my son, I have other signs that I’m certain without a doubt on the spectrum myself. I am divorced and have joint custody I have the kids 90% he has them 20% for summer and school breaks and hes the type that will use this in court against me due to the stigma .
Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 22, 2018 at 1:53 PM
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Danesmommy1
by Grammar Enthusiast on Mar. 22, 2018 at 1:55 PM
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Lol, your ex would be laughed out of court.

And 90% and 20%? Granted math isn't my strong suit but...
MyCaptain
by Horror queen on Mar. 22, 2018 at 1:57 PM
I have an autistic son but I don't have ASD that I know of so here's a bump :)
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Mar. 22, 2018 at 2:00 PM
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There are online tests that you could take to see if youre on the spectrum.
Would it truly matter though? You know who you are.
My son is ASD, Im not. According to the on line test I fall well beliw the curve. I was also Dxd ADD as a teen and feel that Dx still fits.

Although I do see some of myself and my struggles in my kid (flooding of emotions, over emotional, easily frustrated) I know that is just the ADD part of him & me in common.

I use the flower a lot to explain ASD. Each petal represents all of what ASD is composed of.
Where my aDd, anxiety and learning difficulites are easy to see in him, he is gifted, depressed with more sensory challenges than Ive ever had.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Mar. 22, 2018 at 2:01 PM
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20% of summer that was suppose to say

Quoting Danesmommy1: Lol, your ex would be laughed out of court.

And 90% and 20%? Granted math isn't my strong suit but...
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Mar. 22, 2018 at 2:05 PM

I have not been formally diagnosed, because like you, I am scared it will affect my life greatly. But I have become friends with many people who have, and they seem to think that I am also on the spectrum. I was always a smart kid, but very awkward, shy and just weird. I also suspect that my 7 yr old is on the spectrum too but have not mentioned it to his doctor as he seems to do well in school (First grade) and does not seem to need any extra help. I also have severe anxiety like you.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Mar. 22, 2018 at 2:12 PM
I have anxiety, ocd everything has to cleaned one way only and I have to organize things a certain way, if my day schedule changes out of the blue I panic inside, I always have been good with school but struggled with dyslexia and still do at times but I figured everyone has strong and weak point. I jus don’t want this dx to be a life sentence on me as if I am a bad mom or “retarded” because that’s now the world views it

Quoting Anonymous 3:

I have not been formally diagnosed, because like you, I am scared it will affect my life greatly. But I have become friends with many people who have, and they seem to think that I am also on the spectrum. I was always a smart kid, but very awkward, shy and just weird. I also suspect that my 7 yr old is on the spectrum too but have not mentioned it to his doctor as he seems to do well in school (First grade) and does not seem to need any extra help. I also have severe anxiety like you.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Mar. 22, 2018 at 2:16 PM

I understand completely. I have not even told my spouse or anyone (except for my online friends on FB) that I think I may be on the spectrum. I do not know what they would think or say or do honestly and it scares me. Even my sister who I am pretty close to and she is a mental health professional, I haven't even told her. I think if you are functioning in life ok, then its not critical to get diagnosed except if you just want to for your own peace of mind. There are communities and groups on Facebook that have been helpful to me so maybe you could seek them out and they would help you as well.

Quoting Anonymous 1: I have anxiety, ocd everything has to cleaned one way only and I have to organize things a certain way, if my day schedule changes out of the blue I panic inside, I always have been good with school but struggled with dyslexia and still do at times but I figured everyone has strong and weak point. I jus don’t want this dx to be a life sentence on me as if I am a bad mom or “retarded” because that’s now the world views it
Quoting Anonymous 3:

I have not been formally diagnosed, because like you, I am scared it will affect my life greatly. But I have become friends with many people who have, and they seem to think that I am also on the spectrum. I was always a smart kid, but very awkward, shy and just weird. I also suspect that my 7 yr old is on the spectrum too but have not mentioned it to his doctor as he seems to do well in school (First grade) and does not seem to need any extra help. I also have severe anxiety like you.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Mar. 22, 2018 at 2:21 PM
Thank you

Quoting Anonymous 3:

I understand completely. I have not even told my spouse or anyone (except for my online friends on FB) that I think I may be on the spectrum. I do not know what they would think or say or do honestly and it scares me. Even my sister who I am pretty close to and she is a mental health professional, I haven't even told her. I think if you are functioning in life ok, then its not critical to get diagnosed except if you just want to for your own peace of mind. There are communities and groups on Facebook that have been helpful to me so maybe you could seek them out and they would help you as well.

Quoting Anonymous 1: I have anxiety, ocd everything has to cleaned one way only and I have to organize things a certain way, if my day schedule changes out of the blue I panic inside, I always have been good with school but struggled with dyslexia and still do at times but I figured everyone has strong and weak point. I jus don’t want this dx to be a life sentence on me as if I am a bad mom or “retarded” because that’s now the world views it

Quoting Anonymous 3:

I have not been formally diagnosed, because like you, I am scared it will affect my life greatly. But I have become friends with many people who have, and they seem to think that I am also on the spectrum. I was always a smart kid, but very awkward, shy and just weird. I also suspect that my 7 yr old is on the spectrum too but have not mentioned it to his doctor as he seems to do well in school (First grade) and does not seem to need any extra help. I also have severe anxiety like you.

krazymom2boyz
by Platinum Member on Mar. 22, 2018 at 2:21 PM
I was diagnosed in m when I was 22 and it was one of the best things I've ever congee. People are so much more forgiving when they know that you're not being a b**** you're just confused. Professionals know better how to talk to you so that you don't get overwhelmed. Once I was diagnosed I was able to train myself better to fit in a little bit. There are times that I feel that my boys are not granted as many opportunities as if I were neurotypical. To some parents I'm weird and they don't want their kids around my weirdness so my boys don't have a lot of outside friends. I worry that my issues rub off on them and make life harder for them and that's a very hard thing to deal with. Luckily I know what it looks like so I'm better able to help them through it.
kajira
by Gold Member on Mar. 22, 2018 at 2:21 PM

I'm pretty open about my diagnoses. I was diagnosed as an adult, after no one knowing what was "wrong" with me as a kid.

I haven't had it used against me really. My husband's very supportive though and sticks up for me if needed. My mother in law is the only one who uses it against me, but I think she'd find anything to use against me though.

I have some ADD tedencies, OCD issues, sensory problems, I don't do well if my routine is disrupted, i have auditory processing issues, and do best with visuals, understanding my weaknesses went a long ways for helping my husband and I communciate more effectively, and allows me to be open with friends/families to improve long term relationships outside of my family unit. It also gives me tools to communicate more effectively with my children, example, if i'm getting overstimulated due to too much noise, I can tell them that, and can rationally explain why I need them to go outside, or do a different activity with out causing them to get butt hurt. LOL


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