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Am I selfish? How do I handle this?

Anonymous
Posted by Anonymous
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I'm a nurse and my DH is an electrician. We have four kids.....

People think we have money.

DH and I kept separate money. He needed me to loan him 400$. He has no idea when his bonus will arrive. He still expects a bunch of nice food etc when I gave him our grocery money.

My nanny wanted a pay advance. She called all day asking to be paid a week early.

Then my mom is calling and asking me to pay her insurance!
Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 16, 2018 at 6:37 PM
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Shaken1976
by Emerald Member on Apr. 16, 2018 at 6:39 PM
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Tell them all no.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Apr. 16, 2018 at 6:39 PM
Tell your dh to budget better and tell your mom to grow up and your mom can pay her own insurance
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 16, 2018 at 6:40 PM
I honestly don't have it. Im pulling things out of my savings.

Quoting Shaken1976:

Tell them all no.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 16, 2018 at 6:41 PM
She started asking me if i had a couple hundred extra a few months ago. I said NO

Quoting Anonymous 2: Tell your dh to budget better and tell your mom to grow up and your mom can pay her own insurance
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Apr. 16, 2018 at 6:48 PM
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Sorry, no.

Repeat
PinkButterfly66
by Diamond Member on Apr. 16, 2018 at 6:50 PM
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No is a complete sentence.  Tell your nanny no and your mom that you're not her piggy bank. And tell your husband to budget better and that he'll have to brown bag it until he gets paid.

Ginger0104
by Ruby Member on Apr. 16, 2018 at 6:50 PM

Why does he need $400?  Does he think you have savings and you don't?  By the sound of it that would be no, and if it's grocery money there's just not money to give.  Otherwise if you do have savings and he's good about paying you back, I would do it.

For everyone else, no.  No is a complete sentence.

Vesta20
by Platinum Member on Apr. 16, 2018 at 6:51 PM
Tell everyone no!
Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Apr. 16, 2018 at 6:54 PM
Do these people not know how to budget? Nurses make good money and so do electricians. A nanny? Seems extravagant if you don’t make good money.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 16, 2018 at 6:55 PM
She isn't Mary Poppins. She doesn't live here or anything. She covers the gap time between my husbands and my shift.

Quoting Anonymous 4: Do these people not know how to budget? Nurses make good money and so do electricians. A nanny? Seems extravagant if you don’t make good money.
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