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My confession.

Anonymous
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I allowed people to treat me badly because I got pregnant at 18, I let them think I was a stupid teenager with no plan and not an ounce of sense that accidentally got pregnant through user error on bc instead of explaining that we planned it.

In reality, I had a miscarriage 4 months before and my dh(then bf) and I planned it, we knew he would be done with school a year after ds was born, we knew I would be done with school a few months after. The hospital he was interning at had apartments (not dorms) students and residents lived in and he got approved for a one bedroom before I even got pregnant. He moved in and then we told the supervisor that I was pregnant about 2 months later and they allowed me to sign onto the lease which made rent a little higher but still manageable for the area(it was $1500 for a one bedroom without the reduction, we were paying $900. it was $400 when it was just dh). We lived there until dh finished school and did one year at the hospital and then we moved into our own house. The whole time people commenting about me being stupid.

I planned out every single detail. I knew what would happen when and how. I've been thinking back to that today, probably because we're planning our second now(7 years later I might add) and just closed on property. No real point just thinking about it today.

Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 19, 2018 at 11:29 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Apr. 19, 2018 at 11:31 PM
Ah, the naivety of youth.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Apr. 19, 2018 at 11:31 PM

well alrighty then

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 19, 2018 at 11:32 PM

naive would be living off the government expecting people to take care of us.

Quoting Anonymous 2: Ah, the naivety of youth.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Apr. 19, 2018 at 11:33 PM
Bully for you.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Apr. 19, 2018 at 11:33 PM
Well then we have different definitions of that word.

Quoting Anonymous 1:

naive would be living off the government expecting people to take care of us.

Quoting Anonymous 2: Ah, the naivety of youth.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 19, 2018 at 11:34 PM

theres only one definition and I was none of what it says naive is.

Quoting Anonymous 2: Well then we have different definitions of that word.
Quoting Anonymous 1:

naive would be living off the government expecting people to take care of us.

Quoting Anonymous 2: Ah, the naivety of youth.



Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Apr. 19, 2018 at 11:57 PM
But why? Just so you could be with him?
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 19, 2018 at 11:59 PM

We both planned the baby, we didnt expect the supervisor to allow me to stay in the apartments.

Quoting Anonymous 5: But why? Just so you could be with him?


BadPom
by Member on Apr. 20, 2018 at 12:01 AM
Sincerely, I’m glad it all worked out for you. Sorry for your loss.
SnowKittyDemon
by Bronze Member on Apr. 20, 2018 at 12:05 AM
Even 45 year olds are naive to the reality of major life changes including being first time mothers, how is it you think you’re the one person that wasn’t naive at 17? It’s not even an insult. It means you’re inexperienced in the world. Which is true for first time parents and people who haven’t yet lived on their own. Which both applied to you at the time. It doesn’t mean “makes dumb decisions”

Quoting Anonymous 1:

theres only one definition and I was none of what it says naive is.

Quoting Anonymous 2: Well then we have different definitions of that word.

Quoting Anonymous 1:

naive would be living off the government expecting people to take care of us.

Quoting Anonymous 2: Ah, the naivety of youth.

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