So, this is more of a rant than anything but please feel free to share suggestions or tips on how you would have handled this situation because I am still a little confused. Today, a friend of mine stopped by to meet DS for the first time. There's quite an age difference between her children and mine...her oldest child is just a few months younger than I am...anyway...she walked into my home and her initial response was, "uhm, are you sure there is a baby living here? It's just too clean." Me, being proud of my home, thanked her and explained that a clean home is very important to us as DS is just becoming mobile and sticks everything in his mouth. I figured that she would joke about it like everyone else does..."Well, come clean my house, anytime..." or something like that. WRONG!!!! She basically started verbally attacking me about the way that I conduct our home. She told me that DS must be completely miserable in a home that is so clean...it looked like he never got to play or enjoy just being a kid...I must have looked stupid standing there trying to defend myself and our home. My son gets to play all the time but there are a few of his favorite toys, in a basket, in the living room that he plays with regularly. While the rest stay in his room. It just makes things easier if there aren't five million things to do at the end of the day...and there aren't a zillion toys to step on and break. Instead of letting it get to me, I smiled and offered her something to drink...She followed me into the kitchen and started her questions, AGAIN! " What is in these 5-gallon buckets?" Because I make my own laundry detergent and fabric softener, 4 gallons at a time, they are more convenient than having 8 gallon jugs sitting around. I explained that instead of buying laundry detergent and softener, I simply make my own. It's cheaper and doesn't irritate DS's skin. So, by that point, not only was I a terrible mother for keeping my house clean, but I was also making terrible choices because "there's just no way that homemade laundry detergent actually cleans your clothes as well as Tide." I was also made out to be "nasty" because I have recycling bins under my kitchen sink for paper, plastic and cans, as well as a container of scraps in my refrigerator for the compost at my SO's mother's house. Recycling and scraps are taken off twice a week to prevent it from piling up so that it doesn't make our home look nasty... Am I really putting my baby in a questionable environment or is she just being ridiculous?!? Should I have done more to defend my home than simply smile and tell her that we were doing what we found fit our needs the best?
on Apr. 27, 2012 at 1:29 PM