How do you unschool when hubby is strict? He has certain rules we have to follow.. no food outside of the kitchen, no playing on the couch, things have to be picked up and in their place (he may have OCD). He enforces bedtimes and constantly tells our son he needs to "toughen up" because he "acts like a girl."
He grew up in a strict military family, and we have discussed our differences, but we still haven't come to a compromise. I want our son to have total freedom and independence, and he is making that very diffcult for us to do. I agree with him on some aspects, but I am pushing more for radical unschooling and he is not comfortable or supportive of it.
Also, my son is 6. He has no interest in reading or books. I try to read with him every day, and he fights me. So I let it go, but I know that reading to him is important in developing his own reading skills. When I ask him what he wants to do for the day, he always turns to video games. He is constantly on my computer, on his PS2, on his DS, or Xbox. I try not to limit him, but he never seems to grow tired of it.
We do other things as well, but video games consumes a lot of his time. He made an office in his room the other day, but he isn't into drawing or writing yet. I don't know how to get him interested in these things and I feel like I am doing something wrong, or that I am not doing enough for him. He has access to craft supplies, Legos, movies, music, and books, but never seems interested in them. It's always video games or computer stuff.
I know he's fine. But I freaked out a little bit and started looking into a virtual school in the area that uses the K12 curriculum. I had him do one of the sample lessons available on the website and he said he liked it and would be interested in doing it.. but it goes against everything that I believe in.
And extracurricular activties is a hard one, as we live on a very tight budget. I can't afford to enroll him in guitar lessons like he wants, or karate or baseball. He has friends he socializes with often, but I haven't found a homeschool co op or anything like that in the area I live in. It's hard, and I feel like I'm completely alone and in the dark here, and I'm afraid I am going about this the wrong way.
Any advice? I know I should trust in my son and know that he is doing just fine and will be alright, but I can't help thinking that I should be doing more for him. I don't want to push him, but what else can I do?