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Easier in rural or urban areas?

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I'm curious on this, since we may have an opportunity to move to the sticks instead of the 'burbs, where we currently are.  Do you think unschooling is "better" or more beneficial in one environment over another?   By rural, I'm talking an hour from the city and enough acreage to 4wheel on.  Which would your kids do better in? 


by on Aug. 13, 2013 at 9:29 PM
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Ecoseem
by Member on Aug. 18, 2013 at 8:16 PM
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I don't think I've ever lived close enough to get to any of those things on foot, so that wouldn't change our situation.

Quoting LindaClement:

How far away from 'civilization' would you be on foot?

Quoting faeriemom1972:

Yeah, I don't know. We have small towns close enough that we aren't isolated. I think it would be hard to be an hour away from true civilization.



faeriemom1972
by Member on Aug. 18, 2013 at 8:46 PM

Yes! Our house is very friend friendly, lol. Our 22 year old daughter never became a townie because she always had a great group of friends and was involved with stuff. She was a library volunteer for ages. I feel bad when I see kids just standing around parking lots, I know there are better things to do because my daughter did them. 

My son is 7, and he likes hanging out with other kids but not in a structured, "you have to do this" kind of setting. I've not signed him up for any activities because he's not interested right now. You don't think I should push it do you? We do a lot of day trips to the mountains and beaches. We also go to museums a lot and he has regular get togethers with his cousin so I haven't been worried about him being a hermit, lol.

Quoting LindaClement:

My kids are both city born and bred, and have much better things to do than hang around in parking lots...

... not the least because of a dangerously-counterculture rule at our house: you're allowed here and so are your friends.

Quoting faeriemom1972:

Lol, there's my duh moment of the day.

There is actually quite a bit within reasonable driving/biking distance. We have a pretty decent library and a really good parks & rec department. Most of the really good museums are in Seattle, but I don't mind making a trip there once a week. It's Marysville Washington, a stereotypical small town with stereotypical townies. I don't want Graham to be a townie, so hopefully he'll find something to keep him from hanging out in the Fred Meyer parking lot at 10pm, lol. That's my big goal Linda, to keep my wonderful little wizard from becoming a townie :/

Quoting LindaClement:

I actually meant the kinds of civilized resources like libraries, museums, sports teams, social clubs, community centres, recreation facilities, etc... that your kids might want to get into when they're older.

The more they (and you) can walk to, the easier your life will be as they move into the bigger world and still can't drive :D

Quoting faeriemom1972:

Not far enough, lol. I live on the Tulalip Indian reservation. The worst thing to happen was Walmart across the street, lol. Not close enough to see, but close enough to walk to if I shopped at Walmart. 

Not that I consider Walmart civilized mind you, but you get the idea.

Quoting LindaClement:

How far away from 'civilization' would you be on foot?

Quoting faeriemom1972:

Yeah, I don't know. We have small towns close enough that we aren't isolated. I think it would be hard to be an hour away from true civilization.







LindaClement
by Group Owner on Aug. 20, 2013 at 1:41 AM
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I don't think kids have any need of structured activities --ever. When they can do what they want without a group (like 'I like swimming' as opposed to 'I want to be on the swim team' :D) a group is unnecessary.

If he wanted more of that, I'm sure he'd get around to asking for it eventually :D

Quoting faeriemom1972:

Yes! Our house is very friend friendly, lol. Our 22 year old daughter never became a townie because she always had a great group of friends and was involved with stuff. She was a library volunteer for ages. I feel bad when I see kids just standing around parking lots, I know there are better things to do because my daughter did them. 

My son is 7, and he likes hanging out with other kids but not in a structured, "you have to do this" kind of setting. I've not signed him up for any activities because he's not interested right now. You don't think I should push it do you? We do a lot of day trips to the mountains and beaches. We also go to museums a lot and he has regular get togethers with his cousin so I haven't been worried about him being a hermit, lol.

Quoting LindaClement:

My kids are both city born and bred, and have much better things to do than hang around in parking lots...

... not the least because of a dangerously-counterculture rule at our house: you're allowed here and so are your friends.

Quoting faeriemom1972:

Lol, there's my duh moment of the day.

There is actually quite a bit within reasonable driving/biking distance. We have a pretty decent library and a really good parks & rec department. Most of the really good museums are in Seattle, but I don't mind making a trip there once a week. It's Marysville Washington, a stereotypical small town with stereotypical townies. I don't want Graham to be a townie, so hopefully he'll find something to keep him from hanging out in the Fred Meyer parking lot at 10pm, lol. That's my big goal Linda, to keep my wonderful little wizard from becoming a townie :/

Quoting LindaClement:

I actually meant the kinds of civilized resources like libraries, museums, sports teams, social clubs, community centres, recreation facilities, etc... that your kids might want to get into when they're older.

The more they (and you) can walk to, the easier your life will be as they move into the bigger world and still can't drive :D

Quoting faeriemom1972:

Not far enough, lol. I live on the Tulalip Indian reservation. The worst thing to happen was Walmart across the street, lol. Not close enough to see, but close enough to walk to if I shopped at Walmart. 

Not that I consider Walmart civilized mind you, but you get the idea.

Quoting LindaClement:

How far away from 'civilization' would you be on foot?

Quoting faeriemom1972:

Yeah, I don't know. We have small towns close enough that we aren't isolated. I think it would be hard to be an hour away from true civilization.








jen2150
by Member on Aug. 23, 2013 at 4:56 PM
Most of our activities are about 45 minutes to an hour away. We enjoy the time. My kids are able to read and spend quality time with each other. Sometime my boys spend the entire drive sharing amazing imaginative stories with one another. Our lifestyle allows us to have hundreds of animals on our property. I couldn't stand living too close to a city. I love my privacy and country life. It is all about what makes you happy. I enjoy driving and road trips. I think what is easier depends on the family. Walking distance would be nice but I wouldn't give up the country or any of my animals for it. I also find driving very relaxing on most days.
LindaClement
by Group Owner on Aug. 27, 2013 at 3:12 PM

A friend of mine moved (when we were 13) up to the interior, and has never moved back.

Of course, her kids didn't get to do 'activities' because they're 28 miles from the nearest general store, and 200 miles from town. ;D

Quoting jen2150:

Most of our activities are about 45 minutes to an hour away. We enjoy the time. My kids are able to read and spend quality time with each other. Sometime my boys spend the entire drive sharing amazing imaginative stories with one another. Our lifestyle allows us to have hundreds of animals on our property. I couldn't stand living too close to a city. I love my privacy and country life. It is all about what makes you happy. I enjoy driving and road trips. I think what is easier depends on the family. Walking distance would be nice but I wouldn't give up the country or any of my animals for it. I also find driving very relaxing on most days.


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