We went up North this past weekend to visit with Dh's paternal uncle, aunt and cousin. We also picked up sd13 since she has been gone for the summer with her mother. Her mother lives about 1 1/2 hours from there so this was very beneficial to her who usually has to make a 6 hour drive each way and bitches about it non stop the whole drive from what I hear. Some back ground she caused dh nothing but grief the whole time they were married it would take a few pages to tell you all the horrible things she did to him and her children. Anyway, lets just says she is a pretty messed up person. So whenever we are there with dh'sfamily and she shows up to pick up or drop of sd she always pretends like she is part of the family with hugs and Oh Hi how are you's. (gag) So she was talking to Dh's aunt and SD13 and I were all standing in a circle. Dh's cousin drives up gets out and comes over.... he acknowledges his mom and then says hello to bm and then to sd and completely ignores me. WTH? Then they go on talking, oh hi how are youuuuu. (gag) I should of said HELLO did you forget my name???? But I didnt I just let it go against my better judgement, didnt want to make waves. Im sure bm got a kick out of it though.
So now the whole time sd has been back all she does is talk about BM blah, blah, blah. Which is not helping the situation. I havent said anything to dh and I want too, one of my cousins wives did this to him and he has brought it up several times in the past. Or if he dosent like one of my relatives or has an opinion he definitely lets me know several times. So now this is festering and Im letting it get to me.
How would you feel? What would you do? Would you say something or let it go?
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Quoting Esmrlda:Your Awesome! Thank you. ; )
Quoting nowynd:
I probably would have said at the time: "I'm going to go talk with so and so...nice to see you again" and then walked off. As for what you can actually do anything about...NOW..I would let it go, because you are the only one hurting from it. You're hurting yourself. To add it to what your husband may or may not have done, serves no purpose to you. Rise above them....but without bitterness. Be thankful that you have had the opportunity to show your class!
Our body does not differentiate between good stress and bad stress. To our bodies...it's all stress. So even though you may be working through it in your mind...your body is still absorbing it all. Believe me....you don't want to accumulate this.
Look over to your shoulder and say out loud...."Get off my shoulder Devil...I'm walkin' with the Lord." You may giggle doing it...but it sure works. Then get on with TODAY!! Let the past go.
Quoting Esmrlda:
Im sorry, that can be so hard and hurtful. Would make me not want to participate an any family functions. ....yes...they just are that way. I just deal with it , talk just a little and that is it. I only seem them for dinners at restaurants.
Fortunatly 99% of the rest of his family likes me. Just this one for whatever reason.
Quoting kiweerose:
can understand what you go through. My swh family is standoffish to me all the time. they are polite, but hardly talk to me so I just listen and keep quiet.
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- Esmrlda
on Aug. 8, 2012 at 5:45 PM