Am I missing something? *** update posted in GREEN***
OK...so today, while I was meeting the ladies for our tatting group, the one lady "e" who is the Mom of one of Rachel's friends, asks me if I have heard the latest road trip plans for our kids?
I said" no... I knew that her son was planning a road trip but because Rachel is now working, the trip would be one with just him".
Well obviously, he had thought otherwise. He is not working and will start grad school in Sept.. so now he feels the crunch to get this road trip inbefore grad school starts AND include Rachel.
SO their plan... that I find out from "e" involves them sleeping in a car. !!!
I reply-- over my dead body. "e" feels me out.. and obviously she does not feel it is a good idea, but will not tell her son so.
When talking to Rachel tonight I ask if they are planning a road trip.. and she gives me some info. I ask her how they are going since neither one of them has any money to speak of. How much do you think it will cost? her response: $150.00. --for the whole trip. I said "how are you doing that with gas going up and a hotel room?" "ohh" she says calmly, " we arent' getting one?" where do you think you are sleeping? "in the car" NO!
SO now I am the bad guy, because I told her it was not only unrealistic for this to be the plan, let alone very unsafe and I don't think she should go.
I feel this young man...( who is a good friend of hers,, but does know how to manipulate her)..should not have even for one minute thought that sleeping in a car was good idea...let alone with a young woman.
SO after a very long conversation I thought, you know what... go ahead. If you are not getting my reasoning as to why this may not be a good idea... and this is "the- only- time-you- will -get -to -do -this- type -of- thing"-- go ahead.
Then she got upset because she doesnt' want me to be mad at her. Mind you,she wasn't going tell me she was doing this trip.
the parts that bother me is:
1 they didn't think there was anything wrong with their plan.
2 the boys parents did not ask any questions.
3 it was brought up to me because "e" knew I would ask Rachel about it.
SO now, Rachel will be up all night and she has to work a double tomorrow... and audition in between.. which I do feel bad that I wasted time on this when she should have been getting ready for that.
She is sooo worried about hurting his feelings. it turns out they have been thinking about this for a few days, but no one thought to even LOOK at hotel rooms, to see if they could get one at a reasonable price.
OHH and they were going to live off of sandwiches.. this guy is a pizza guy,not a lunchmeat type of guy.
ANd it will be interesting to see if "e" brings this up tomorrow on our jaunt to the crafting places. she may not even be talking to me,who knows?
I feel that I was only trying to put common sense into their heads... was I so wrong?
heck I can take being the bad guy... but I am wondering, should I just have let it happen?
Tomorrow should be interesting.