need help

[fireice]

I am having a problem with my youngest (soon to be my middle child).  She is on this kick of whining when ever she wants, or doesn't get her way.  It is driving me nuts.  So any help with this would be great.  and please no bashing because I am seriously at my wits ends and can't take the bashing at the moment. 

[fireice]

Im thinking she needs a spanking also.  I normaly use my hand on her but she laughs at me and I spank till her bottom is red.  So im thinking I may need to get a paddle or a wooden spoon.  Her dad feels bad when he spanks the kids because they are girls.  Even tho he agrees with spanking he doesn't like to be the one that does it. 

[joyw1971]

I think she knows if she gets spanked the way she is at the moment it's no big deal. So it's time to up the anti and be given a spanking she won't want again very soon.

Good luck

Joy

[fireice]

she got a good one with my hand across her bare bottom today. Lets just say mommy hasn't been to annoyed today :).  It has been a less stress full day after that.

[faithnkristen]

I think you are doing a good job and sometimes the spanking is what they have coming.

My youngest (we have three) has proven to be the whiner of the group when he does not get his way, and at some point, excess whining and crying just plain becomes disrespect and I'm not ashamed to say that it gets really old, really quick.  My deal is that I will say you have whined enough, you have a certain number of minutes to calm down, relax, and re-focus.  If the whining and crying persists, then we move to it is time to take your britches off.  If you can't calm down like I politely asked you to do, then you will have plenty of time in the corner to calm down with a sore bottom to help you remember.

[janet116]

In my experience spanking is certainly necessary but i would recommend a light nursery strap rather than a paddle I have daughters 13 and 15 and spanking is as necessary for them now as it ever was . It can bring a quick change in behaviour even if it doesn't last and I have found it more effective than any other method , regardless of age

My husband has always refused to spank children so I do it . Your husband shoud support you , correct them verbally and ensure they understand they must do as they are told .

[jessicaf1985]

I would definitely spank her for this! I have a two year old and she DOES get spankings for whining, so I think that your girls are definitely old enough.

[RuthAnnH]

Listen to the moms here! Do not be afraid to take her pants down and spank her until she is sorry for what she did. Your husband does not believe in spanking- fine. Just remember, if you are spending more time with your children, it should be your call.

[askatuta]

You can be strict with your children´s discipline. But you first must warn them what will happen with them if they commit serious faults. I suggest you what in Argentina is called "chas chas": put her face down on your knees and give her one smackmfor each age old.