So very lost...

Wow! I'd be really nervous too! Gosh I wish I had something to say that would make you feel better. Is there anyone else that you can stay with during the time he will be there? It will be very awkward having him so close all of the sudden. Not only for your son but especially for you. Your son is still really small and can't comprehend all these things but you on the other hand you must have alot of mixed feelings. I can suggest if you have to be around him just try to stay as much away from his presence as you possibly can. I think I would not go out of my room unless I really have too! Since his parents have been nice to you I suppose you kind of owe it to them to at least try to keep peace between you. Not that they are doing you a favor (you so have their grandchild) but in reality not all "in laws" are willing to help. I pray that things go smooth for you and that God gives you wisdom to keep  strong during this time. Keep us posted.

Man, what a bummer!  Don't you have a friend that would put it up while the dad will be there? Maybe you could talk to your in-laws about your feelings and they could come up with a solution.  I have never had to go through something like that before.  How about the church you go to? May the pastor would be willing to help with a solution just during the time that your little guy's dad is here. Pastors are so understanding and helpful.  Maybe even a shelter for a little while. If you were to explain the situation, they might be willing to help you out. I'm so sorry I don't have any answers that are rock solid.  All I know is... prayer changes things.  Maybe he won't come. That would be a blessing in disguise.  Let me know the outcome.  God bless you and yours.

Can you stay with some of your family  or get some help that would get you started on your own? Income housing, taniff, foodstamps, catch a ride to work with someone close by? Just an idea. A shame he doesnt want to be in his life he is so cute. Local churches sometimes help when people need it or just to meet friends. I hope he has uncles and a grandfather to be in his life. Good luck to you. Try to be nice so he wont feel the tension when he is there and just pray for help and strength.

I've hardly ever heard of the paternal grandparents stepping up when the father backs down. Do they have an opinion about this have they spoken to their son about his actions? My advice is looking into lowincome housing and keep praying for answers.

I'll keep you in my prayers - I agree with others above, I think you need to find a place to stay while your son's father is there in the house.  It is a hard situation - my children were 4 and 6 when my marriage ended and their father moved 8 hours drive away. He had Court ordered supervised access only and they'd seen him every 1-2 months (when he decided to turn up) for 1 1/2 hours and they hated it - they didn't want to see him and yet I had to make them as per the Court order - but the grief I put up with for days afterwards 'cos it upset them so much just broke my heart.   Keep us updated sweetie.

Great news! Though I don't know if I really should call it that...lol.
We got a call yesterday that he's not coming until Thanksgiving!! That gives me plenty of time to find my own place and leave without hurting or offending thegrandparents!! They're home, so I can't say much, but I'll keep you updated on what happens! Thanks for the prayers!!!

That's fabulous news and a real answer to many prayers - thanks for the update.

Hello Katemama05,

I am so happy to see that the women here have been an answer to your prayers. I want you to know that the situation you are going thru is not your fault. Every one of us has made a decision that turned out to not work out the way we wanted.

Continue being the loving and nurturing mother that it is evident that you are and the rest will fall into place. God is always here for you and so are the rest of us women and God's fighting warriors.

Since the family is so supportive just let them know how you are feeling and also explain to them how grateful you are and let them know that you will always keep them involved in the childs life.

I will keep you in my prayers just know that God loves you and we are all rooting for you. Focus on being happy and creating a happy and healthy life for you and your son.

Sincerely,

Minister Tabitha Variance-Prayer Warrior