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15 Responsibilities You Have As An Adult

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by John Hawkins
A society of children cannot survive, no matter how all-embracing the government nanny. -- Mark Steyn

The biggest reason that our government has turned into a nanny state is because so many American adults act like spoiled, petulant children. This is not about being a conservative as opposed to a liberal; it's about being an adult as opposed to a child. You want to be a man? Act like a man, not a boy. You want to be treated like a woman? Act like a woman instead of a little girl playing with her dolls. Ultimately, if you want the respect that comes with being an adult, you have to do more than reach adulthood. Instead, you have to actually embrace the responsibilities that come with being a man. Until you can do that, you'll forever be an unworthy child, no matter what age you reach.

1) Whether you want to have your yearly coupling with your wife or take on the Dallas Cowboys, it's not everyone else's business unless you ask them to pay for it. Keep the government -- and everyone else -- out of your bedroom. Pay for your own contraceptives.

2) It's your job to take care of your kids. It's your job to feed them, clothe them, watch over them, and teach them right from wrong. Of course, it's not easy. It has never been easy, but somehow everybody from cavemen to medieval peasants to Vikings managed to pull it off. If they can do it, you can do it.

3) The government may put basic safety regulations in place, but at the end of the day, you're responsible for your own life and limb. If you spill hot coffee on yourself, slip on an icy sidewalk, fail to strap into your parachute, kill yourself after listening to heavy metal music, die from smoking, crack your head open because you didn't wear a motorcycle helmet, drown after a hurricane you knew was coming for a few days or pee on an electric fence, that's your fault. It's shouldn’t be the job of the government or the court system to kiss your boo-boo and make it better when anybody with half a brain wouldn't have done something so dumb in the first place.

4) Yes, you MAY get Social Security and Medicare, although given the size of our deficit, you can't count on those programs long-term unless we have serious reform. Yet and still, that's probably not going to be enough money for you to live on. To live in comfort, you're going to need more money than that. You should be setting it aside now unless being a greeter at Wal-Mart when you're 80 has a lot of appeal to you.

5) Your life is your responsibility. Whether you end up rich or broke, drunk or sober, in jail or free, successful or a failure -- it's all the fault of the person looking back at you in the mirror. If things go wrong, don't blame your country, your government, your parents, your spouse, the political party you don't like, bad luck, being born under the wrong sign -- you did it. Own it so that you can do something about it.

6) Would your mother be proud of the person you are today? Can people trust you to do the right thing? If you weren't around and they were being honest, would your friends, your children, or your local pastor say you were a good person? No matter what rules, standards, and laws are in place, they're no good unless the people are good. No one's perfect, but if you're not a fundamentally decent person, you're not a responsible adult.

7) This country was here before you were born and it'll be here after you die. You have a solemn duty to leave this nation better than you found it, if only by refusing to sponge off your fellow citizens.

8) If you're not an informed voter, if you don't know who Joe Biden is, which party is pro-life or which party is pro-abortion, or which party is pushing for low gas prices and which party prefers high gas prices, you shouldn't vote. You don't have a responsibility to vote; you have a responsibility to be an informed voter. Learn what's going on or don't vote.

9) If life is a game, then the Constitution is the set of rules we play by in this country. And guess what? People cheat all the time. Not only is it unfair to cheat, those rules have made us the most successful country the world has ever seen. The more those rules are bastardized, the less successful our nation is going to be. You don't have to become a constitutional scholar, but take the time to learn something about the Constitution. It'll help make you a good American.

10) The sad truth of the matter is that you can get a high school degree along with a college degree and STILL be woefully ignorant of history, economics, and how the world works. That's why you have to continue to educate yourself if you want to be wise.

11) If you get upside down on your mortgage, that's a tough break -- for you. Your house is your responsibility and nobody else should have to pay a dime on it, especially other people who're paying their own mortgages.

12) It's not the government's job to pay your bills, find you a job, and keep you living in the style to which you've grown accustomed. There are people who work crummy jobs just to keep some money coming in, work 2 jobs, or even move to a better area to find work. That may not be pleasant, but paying your bills is a responsibility that ultimately rests on your shoulders.

13) You don't need the government to ban trans fat or build a new grocery store in your area because you're in a "food desert." Eat what you want and take the consequences.

14) You don't want the responsibility for your own health care because you think it's too expensive? Wait and see how much it costs when the government gives it to you for "free." Then see how well your decisions about your own health match up with the ones made by some faceless bureaucrat in D.C. Here's a hint: You're interested in you. They're interested in saving the government money. Your interests, even in cases of life or death, will not always coincide.

15) If you went $80,000 in debt to get a philosophy degree from a private school and now you're stuck working at the Waffle House because nobody's impressed with your mastery of Kant, you don't have anyone but yourself to blame. Pay for your own college loans.

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You don't have to be judgmental and be like "Oh, he's using his freedom the wrong way!  I want him to use his freedom the way I use my freedom!"  You can't do that. You have to be tolerant.  People say "Oh no, you can't be tolerant. What if they do something you don't like?" Tolerance does not mean endorsement.  -- Ron Paul
by on Mar. 15, 2012 at 6:59 PM
Replies (81-87):
lisakansas
by on Mar. 18, 2012 at 12:45 PM
1 mom liked this

Nope, it just says a lot about the list itself.  For instance, "2) It's your job to take care of your kids. It's your job to feed them, clothe them, watch over them, and teach them right from wrong. Of course, it's not easy. It has never been easy, but somehow everybody from cavemen to medieval peasants to Vikings managed to pull it off. If they can do it, you can do it. ...um, cavemen, medieval peasants and Vikings did a horrible job of feeding and clothing their children and teaching them right from wrong.  I could agree that we're all capable of doing just as horrible a job, but I can't agree that that's the standard of childcare and childrearing that we should all be held to.  I'm sad that anybody else thinks it is.

Quoting bookmommy:

Wow. Not a single one? That's sad and says a lot about our entitlement mentality in this country.

Quoting lisakansas:

Can't find a single one of these I can agree with.  A shame. :( 



imagirlgeek
by Bronze Member on Mar. 18, 2012 at 1:41 PM

Did you even read what I wrote?  I said McDonalds was negligent.  I said that the specific example that you were disturbed by was a bad example because it WAS a valid use of the court system.  And yes, I do blame the media for that.  The case was in 1994, before people got the majority of their news from the Internet.  That woman became the poster child for what some considered excessive payout from a lawsuit.  It was sensationalized BY the media.  And, yeah, it does happen A LOT.  And people still don't fact check.  Even with all the information at the tip of their fingers.

Us little people ARE responsible for our lives.  Life is hard.  Bad things happen.  Safety nets exist for those who need them.  When big business screws up, they should be held accountable.  When government screws up, they should be held accountable.  And lately, they are not being held accountable.  They are being bailed out continually by OUR tax dollars.  Maybe, just maybe, if we, the little people, were allowed to keep more of our earnings, the irresponsible politicians wouldn't be handing it out to their favorite irresponsible donors in D.C.

Let me offer a better example than the hot coffee lady.  Two guys playing with a bb gun.  One shoots the other in the eye on accident.  The one who was shot sues the maker of the bb gun, and gets a huge payout in settlement.  How the hell was the maker of the bb gun negligent??  True story.


Quoting Raintree:

Mcdonald's policy was to keep the coffee at 180-ish degrees- without consulting anyone about the potential effects of spills. They were negligent in their policy.

And the media is solely to blame?

What do you want to bet this happens more often than not with a variety of cases?

Get a little tired of the apologists on this one. Only the little people are held responsible. To ALLOW this case to be used as an example of 'flagrant lawsuits' is to allow the name of that lady with the third degree burns to be sullied further. You should mention this to the author of this diatribe.

Quoting imagirlgeek:

You're right.  There has always been a huge amount of misinformation around that case.  We can blame the media for that.  I didn't even find out the facts around that case until years later.  From what I understand, McDonalds was negligent by serving coffee that could cause 3rd degree burns.  

But the general point is to say that there is an issue with flagrant lawsuits these days.  There was a time when you had to prove negligence to win in court, but not really anymore.  Now it just depends on whether you've got a lenient jury or not, or if you are lucky and the other person or company settles...I guess.  I mean, look at all the warning labels on things now.  My SS's razor scooter has a warning label that says "Warning: This product moves when used".  Our table saw has a warning about not putting hands or fingers on or near the blade when using.  And I saw a label on an iron once that warned against iron clothes while wearing them.

I'm not saying that everyone who gets injured and sues for damages is gaming the system, but some are.  

Quoting Raintree:

There are a lot of mistakes of understanding in the OP.

To pick one at random, "if you spill coffee on yourself"- which I imagine is about the 79 year old woman who sued McDonalds for the hot coffee- the woman was badly burned (3rd degree, resulting in the need for skin grafts) because the coffee was WAY too hot. Hotter than is recognized as 'hot' in coffee land.

Is that her responsibility as an adult? To just live with third degree burns given her by a product? Or is it the responsibility of a restaurant to ensure their food is safe?

Or do we not think businesses should have to be responsible?

Edited to add link- http://www.lectlaw.com/files/cur78.htm





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You don't have to be judgmental and be like "Oh, he's using his freedom the wrong way!  I want him to use his freedom the way I use my freedom!"  You can't do that. You have to be tolerant.  People say "Oh no, you can't be tolerant. What if they do something you don't like?" Tolerance does not mean endorsement.  -- Ron Paul
bookmommy
by on Mar. 18, 2012 at 2:30 PM

Really? On what do you base your assertion that the medieval people or the Vikings did a "horrible job"? The Vikings were definitely a force to be reckoned with in their day. I don't think its a standard we are holding ourselves to, its more like: if the Vikings or medieval pesants could clothe and feed their kids in the times they lived in with the resources they had, why do some find it hard in todays world? There are more opportunities and ways to make money now than there was then..

Quoting lisakansas:

Nope, it just says a lot about the list itself.  For instance, "2) It's your job to take care of your kids. It's your job to feed them, clothe them, watch over them, and teach them right from wrong. Of course, it's not easy. It has never been easy, but somehow everybody from cavemen to medieval peasants to Vikings managed to pull it off. If they can do it, you can do it. ...um, cavemen, medieval peasants and Vikings did a horrible job of feeding and clothing their children and teaching them right from wrong.  I could agree that we're all capable of doing just as horrible a job, but I can't agree that that's the standard of childcare and childrearing that we should all be held to.  I'm sad that anybody else thinks it is.

Quoting bookmommy:

Wow. Not a single one? That's sad and says a lot about our entitlement mentality in this country.

Quoting lisakansas:

Can't find a single one of these I can agree with.  A shame. :( 




Raintree
by Gold Member on Mar. 18, 2012 at 4:04 PM

Bad analogy.

In the McDonald's case- to make it relevant to your example- she would have sued the coffee company- not McDonald's.

Quoting imagirlgeek:

Did you even read what I wrote?  I said McDonalds was negligent.  I said that the specific example that you were disturbed by was a bad example because it WAS a valid use of the court system.  And yes, I do blame the media for that.  The case was in 1994, before people got the majority of their news from the Internet.  That woman became the poster child for what some considered excessive payout from a lawsuit.  It was sensationalized BY the media.  And, yeah, it does happen A LOT.  And people still don't fact check.  Even with all the information at the tip of their fingers.

Us little people ARE responsible for our lives.  Life is hard.  Bad things happen.  Safety nets exist for those who need them.  When big business screws up, they should be held accountable.  When government screws up, they should be held accountable.  And lately, they are not being held accountable.  They are being bailed out continually by OUR tax dollars.  Maybe, just maybe, if we, the little people, were allowed to keep more of our earnings, the irresponsible politicians wouldn't be handing it out to their favorite irresponsible donors in D.C.

Let me offer a better example than the hot coffee lady.  Two guys playing with a bb gun.  One shoots the other in the eye on accident.  The one who was shot sues the maker of the bb gun, and gets a huge payout in settlement.  How the hell was the maker of the bb gun negligent??  True story.


Quoting Raintree:

Mcdonald's policy was to keep the coffee at 180-ish degrees- without consulting anyone about the potential effects of spills. They were negligent in their policy.

And the media is solely to blame?

What do you want to bet this happens more often than not with a variety of cases?

Get a little tired of the apologists on this one. Only the little people are held responsible. To ALLOW this case to be used as an example of 'flagrant lawsuits' is to allow the name of that lady with the third degree burns to be sullied further. You should mention this to the author of this diatribe.

Quoting imagirlgeek:

You're right.  There has always been a huge amount of misinformation around that case.  We can blame the media for that.  I didn't even find out the facts around that case until years later.  From what I understand, McDonalds was negligent by serving coffee that could cause 3rd degree burns.  

But the general point is to say that there is an issue with flagrant lawsuits these days.  There was a time when you had to prove negligence to win in court, but not really anymore.  Now it just depends on whether you've got a lenient jury or not, or if you are lucky and the other person or company settles...I guess.  I mean, look at all the warning labels on things now.  My SS's razor scooter has a warning label that says "Warning: This product moves when used".  Our table saw has a warning about not putting hands or fingers on or near the blade when using.  And I saw a label on an iron once that warned against iron clothes while wearing them.

I'm not saying that everyone who gets injured and sues for damages is gaming the system, but some are.  

Quoting Raintree:

There are a lot of mistakes of understanding in the OP.

To pick one at random, "if you spill coffee on yourself"- which I imagine is about the 79 year old woman who sued McDonalds for the hot coffee- the woman was badly burned (3rd degree, resulting in the need for skin grafts) because the coffee was WAY too hot. Hotter than is recognized as 'hot' in coffee land.

Is that her responsibility as an adult? To just live with third degree burns given her by a product? Or is it the responsibility of a restaurant to ensure their food is safe?

Or do we not think businesses should have to be responsible?

Edited to add link- http://www.lectlaw.com/files/cur78.htm






lisakansas
by on Mar. 18, 2012 at 4:53 PM

There are lots of books out there on the subjects--about half of all children born were dead by age 7, frequently enough from starvation and hypothermia, ie, the things that adequate food, clothing and shelter save children from.  And as for how they treated each other both within their cultures and outside them after they grew up...well, the Vikings were kinda famous for that, eh?  Not precisely well-taught about right vs. wrong, unless you consider "might makes right" an ideal moral code. :) 

Quoting bookmommy:

Really? On what do you base your assertion that the medieval people or the Vikings did a "horrible job"? The Vikings were definitely a force to be reckoned with in their day. I don't think its a standard we are holding ourselves to, its more like: if the Vikings or medieval pesants could clothe and feed their kids in the times they lived in with the resources they had, why do some find it hard in todays world? There are more opportunities and ways to make money now than there was then..

Quoting lisakansas:

Nope, it just says a lot about the list itself.  For instance, "2) It's your job to take care of your kids. It's your job to feed them, clothe them, watch over them, and teach them right from wrong. Of course, it's not easy. It has never been easy, but somehow everybody from cavemen to medieval peasants to Vikings managed to pull it off. If they can do it, you can do it. ...um, cavemen, medieval peasants and Vikings did a horrible job of feeding and clothing their children and teaching them right from wrong.  I could agree that we're all capable of doing just as horrible a job, but I can't agree that that's the standard of childcare and childrearing that we should all be held to.  I'm sad that anybody else thinks it is.

Quoting bookmommy:

Wow. Not a single one? That's sad and says a lot about our entitlement mentality in this country.

Quoting lisakansas:

Can't find a single one of these I can agree with.  A shame. :( 





ExecutiveChick
by Silver Member on Mar. 19, 2012 at 5:00 PM

I love this thread. I couldn't agree more with the OP. The message is right on. The tone doesn't change the points made IMHO. but some of the counter points in the posts had me LMAO!!! 

I have been away for a week with the kids for spring break and this was a wonderful thread to return to.

yourspecialkid
by on Mar. 19, 2012 at 5:08 PM

 It should be repeated...and repeated OFTEN.

 

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