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Being Gay is NOT a Choice

Posted by on Jan. 10, 2013 at 12:20 PM
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http://www.cnn.com/2011/11/16/opinion/hormel-shorter-gay-not-a-choice/index.html


Editor's note: James C. Hormel served as U.S. ambassador to Luxembourg from 1999 to 2000. He recently wrote a memoir entitled "Fit to Serve: Reflections on a Secret Life, Private Struggle and Public Battle to Become the First Openly Gay U.S. Ambassador." He is chairman of the family-run investment firm Equidex.

(CNN) -- When Shorter University in northwest Georgia recently informed its 200 employees that they had to sign a "personal lifestyle pledge" requiring them to reject homosexuality or lose their jobs, school administrators underscored a staggering injustice: In 29 U.S. states, people can still be fired for being gay.

While same-sex marriage and other equality debates soak up political and media attention, the Employment Non-discrimination Act, a 37-year-old bill, languishes in the U.S. Congress.

Without that federal law, a majority of our states condone job, housing and other discrimination based on sexual orientation. An even larger number -- 35 -- have no protections for transgender people.

Even corporate America is ahead of our legislators on this issue: 87% of Fortune 500 companies have policies barring discriminationbased on sexual orientation. (About 46% also protect gender identity.) What do the innovators and drivers of our economy know that our politicians do not?

Despite a bomb threat that canceled classes, hundreds of Shorter students, faculty, alumni and neighbors protested against the pledge on November 11. These individuals demonstrated tremendous courage in standing up to the university and its leaders' opportunistic interpretation of religious tradition.

I know something about the personal strength that kind of protest requires. In the late 1990s, when I stood as President Bill Clinton's nominee as U.S. ambassador to the small European nation of Luxembourg, Christian extremists circulated false allegations of pedophilia and other lies in hopes of sinking the nomination. They never once questioned my professional qualifications; the only issue was my sexuality.

One of the main reasons discrimination persists is that many people in America -- whether we speak of Don Dowless, Shorter's president, or presidential hopefuls Herman Cain or Michele Bachmann -- advance and reinforce the myth that being gay is a choice.

For them, it is as if we silly LGBT people would be perfectly happy and healthy if we would just make a different set of decisions about our lives.

As a young boy growing up in Austin, Minnesota, teachers forced pens into my right hand in the futile hope of correcting my left-handedness. If they had known I was gay, they might have tried to fix that, too. They would have failed.

I spent the first 35 years of my life trying very hard not to be gay, to the extent that I married my college sweetheart and created a beautiful family of five children with her. Hard as I tried to make that life work, I could not escape my attraction to men. Choice had nothing to do with it.

Scientists from San Francisco to Stockholm are finding evidence of what gay people know in their hearts: that sexual orientation is innate. Recent research in Sweden has identified differences in brain structure that may determine whether a person is gay or straight.

Until the time that people accept that all of us are born into our sexual orientation and identity, LGBT citizens will still endure discrimination and selective application of the Constitution's protections.

Through a social media campaign that includes online petitions, the anti-bigotry protesters are keeping pressure on Shorter to drop its policy. But the question must be asked: Why is it legal for a university to discriminate?

The protesters must next take their demands to Georgia's legislature. Discrimination based on sexual orientation has no place in America today.


Other sources for research

http://www.newscientist.com/article/dn14146-gay-brains-structured-like-those-of-the-opposite-sex.html

http://www.apa.org/helpcenter/sexual-orientation.aspx

http://current.com/green/89071010_best-evidence-yet-that-being-gay-is-not-a-choice.htm

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..MoonShine..
by Bronze Member on Jan. 10, 2013 at 12:24 PM
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 Discrimination based on sexual orientation has no place in America today.

 Discrimination based on sexual orientation has no place in America today.

 Discrimination based on sexual orientation has no place in America today.

numbr1wmn
by Nikki on Jan. 10, 2013 at 12:25 PM
I agree!
..MoonShine..
by Bronze Member on Jan. 10, 2013 at 12:25 PM
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For ANY reason. 

Quoting ..MoonShine..:

 Discrimination based on sexual orientation has no place in America today.

 Discrimination based on sexual orientation has no place in America today.

 Discrimination based on sexual orientation has no place in America today.


rccmom
by Gold Member on Jan. 10, 2013 at 12:25 PM

I know, but you will never convince some. What I find scary is that I think if they ever develop genetics well enough, and locate all the genetics involved in someone being a homosexual, their next logical step will be to fix that "mistake." They could develop in utero manipulation to make sure that child is born right.

KTU
by on Jan. 10, 2013 at 12:32 PM
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I know someone who chooses to be in a same sex relationship.

..MoonShine..
by Bronze Member on Jan. 10, 2013 at 12:38 PM
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Are they bi? It's not the issue of choosing who to be in a relationship that is being discussed here, it's the issue of choosing who you're attracted to. At least, that's what I mean when *I* say that being gay is not a choice. I myself am attracted to both men and women, but I met and fell in love with my husband, and choose to be in a heterosexual relationship. That does not magically make my attraction to women disappear. I can't choose to not be attracted to women. I just...am. 

Quoting KTU:

I know someone who chooses to be in a same sex relationship.


romalove
by SenseandSensibility on Jan. 10, 2013 at 12:39 PM
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Quoting rccmom:

I know, but you will never convince some. What I find scary is that I think if they ever develop genetics well enough, and locate all the genetics involved in someone being a homosexual, their next logical step will be to fix that "mistake." They could develop in utero manipulation to make sure that child is born right.

That is a frightening thought, and I think you're likely right about it.  :-(

rccmom
by Gold Member on Jan. 10, 2013 at 12:41 PM


Quoting romalove:


Quoting rccmom:

I know, but you will never convince some. What I find scary is that I think if they ever develop genetics well enough, and locate all the genetics involved in someone being a homosexual, their next logical step will be to fix that "mistake." They could develop in utero manipulation to make sure that child is born right.

That is a frightening thought, and I think you're likely right about it.  :-(

I've read hints about it. 

ArianEponae
by on Jan. 10, 2013 at 12:41 PM
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How can anyone say something is or is not a choice? Either way, you're stereotyping. I've known homosexual individuals who feel they were born that way, as well as those who found their love and they happened to be of the same sex. Big deal. Choice or birth makes no difference...they're people, just human beings who want to love and be loved.
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by Gold Member on Jan. 10, 2013 at 12:41 PM
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Discrimination has no place in America today.

Quoting ..MoonShine..:

 Discrimination based on sexual orientation has no place in America today.

 Discrimination based on sexual orientation has no place in America today.

 Discrimination based on sexual orientation has no place in America today.

 

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