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The lies about feminism cleared up

Posted by on Jun. 28, 2013 at 11:39 PM
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How Most Things You Know About Feminists Are Vicious Conservative Lies

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Clairwil
by Gold Member on Jun. 29, 2013 at 5:02 AM
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Quoting blues_pagan:

That's such an unbelievable claim, can anyone give a source on a conservative making it?


blues_pagan
by on Jun. 29, 2013 at 11:02 AM

I don't think it is so much a conservative claim but I do know from experience that people think someone who identifies as a feminist is always stuck up and serious.  

Quoting Clairwil:

Quoting blues_pagan:

That's such an unbelievable claim, can anyone give a source on a conservative making it?



Clairwil
by Gold Member on Jun. 29, 2013 at 11:17 AM
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Quoting blues_pagan:
Quoting Clairwil:
Quoting blues_pagan:

That's such an unbelievable claim, can anyone give a source on a conservative making it?

I don't think it is so much a conservative claim but I do know from experience that people think someone who identifies as a feminist is always stuck up and serious. 

Here's more from feminists:




What is Feminist Humor, Anyway?

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When I talk about this feminism and humor project, a considerable number of people shift their glance, squirm a bit.  Sometimes they smile politely and change the subject.  Sometimes they smile and ask what I think of 30 Rock/Roseanne/this one prostitute joke.  Once, a guy tried to bait me into an argument over Andrew Dice Clay.  (My response: "Yeah... I guess his rise was before my time.") More than once, I've been treated to the "Feminism and comedy? Isn't that an oxymoron?" quip.  Zing!  Way to prove you know nothing about feminism.

But you can't really blame people for being confuddled, especially if they're not hip to what feminism actually is, compared to its stereotype: angry, male-hating bra-burners with a not-so-secret agenda to lesbianize our daughters, refinish our garage cabinets and rule the world.  And these people have jokes?

The internet is littered with "Feminist Humor" sites, only adding to the miseducation. These sites feature anti-male or anti-feminist jokes (like this, this, & this).  They were not written or labeled by feminists (we were too busy refinishing our cabinets).  But nonetheless, they reinforce the idea that feminism is about putting men down, which, if you're still confused about, isn't true. (There are millions of phenomenal feminist guys!)

So, here's the hard part.  It's easy to say what feminism isn't.  And much harder to say what it is.  Contrary to popular belief, feminism isn't one big united front, with a sneaky set of objectives.  Feminism or feminisms, as Make/Shift magazine likes to put it, are as varied as the groups that identify with the terms.  A commonality is a concern for the well-being of women and girls in a world that frequently treats them like crap.  Many feminisms recognize the intersectionality of how race, gender, class and sexuality can severely limit the opportunities for individuals... and think needs to be addressed and changed.  

And so, what is true "feminist humor"?  It's a slippery slope to try to create a classification system- this counts, this doesn't.  Generally, feminist humor is based on a worldview cognizant of the way the world oppresses certain groups.  It might address and invert cultural assumptions about identity or experiences of being marginalized.  But it might not.  In a world where women and minorities are given so few voices in the mainstream media, I feel that the act of a woman holding a microphone is feminist, in itself. (Er, unless she's reinforcing misogyny with that voice.  See how tricky it gets to start saying what counts and what doesn't?)

Feminist Humor Theory is a interdisciplinary field of scholarship devoted to intersections of gender, humor and power.   It's really cool.  I'd recommend Nancy A. Walkers, A Very Serious Thing, if you're looking to read more about it.  More recently, Sabiyha Prince is writing about the ghettoization of black female comedians.  

We at Wisecrack truly believe in the power of comedy to shape the world we live in.  We hope Wisecrack will be a virtual space for exploration of issues of gender, comedy, feminism and ultimately, justice.  We'd like to include as many voices as possible- if you're interested in contributing, please contact us at Wisecrack [AT] gmail [DOT] com. 
JanuaryBaby06
by Gold Member on Jun. 30, 2013 at 3:17 AM
Feminism is about equality for all. My DH and are huge feminists and are currently raising 2 little male feminists. My DH recently participated in "Walk a mile in her shoes" where men walk a mile in high heels. It helps to raise awareness, raise money for the Laurel House as well as let eveyone know that there are male feminists. Woman are not the only ones who stand to gain from feminism. Men are pretty much shown to have no self control, many men want to disprove this theory; this idea that is pushed evrytime a rape victem is asked about what she was wearing or how much she drank.

My 7yearold wants to fully participate next year-lol.
JoJoBean8
by Silver Member on Jul. 2, 2013 at 10:31 AM

I;ve never heard those stereotypes. 

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